Search found 18 matches

by tilly
Sun Dec 08, 2019 4:48 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Thank you, I did read your post too, I'm so sorry for what happened to Bertie. Five years on I didn't think I would feel this way but I still miss him so much.xxx
by tilly
Sun Dec 08, 2019 3:49 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

i still miss you so much XXX
by tilly
Fri Aug 07, 2015 4:33 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 6 months on..
Replies: 10
Views: 3856

Re: 6 months on..

Its almost 6 months since my cat was ran over too.....i still miss him every day and i wish i could turn the clocks back so i could have done things differently. The pain is different i suppose to the pain i felt the days and weeks after it happened but i really wish he was still here with me.
by tilly
Fri Mar 06, 2015 9:42 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

You don't flush them alive do you?!? no cussypat, i would never do that, i make sure that they are defiantly gone before i flush. I think im just getting used to the fish dying on me, some ive had for years but other die within a week. Im sorry to hear about your loss, its a shock even if it is exp...
by tilly
Tue Mar 03, 2015 7:52 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

My son says that we should stick with fish. I must admit there are occasions where I have threatened to trade my lot in for a goldfish. But they know I don't mean it (well not always). With all the mess, chaos, cost and sometimes heart-break we are all 'under the paw' - and would we want it any oth...
by tilly
Tue Mar 03, 2015 4:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

This post made me well up. I have lost a LOT of cats..... To old age, illness, genetics, dog attacks, maggots, slurry pits, and roads. The very WORST is when it is sudden and unexpected. I remember once returning home after a walk with my (now) husband and the dogs, to see Minnie run across the roa...
by tilly
Tue Mar 03, 2015 8:29 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Thanks for the replies, i needed them this morning. I think its been so stressful these last 5 months having this puppy here, it was harder than i thought, i did everything i could to help Tilly adjust and things were going ok. I thought long and hard before i allowed my son to get the dog he had al...
by tilly
Sun Mar 01, 2015 6:03 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

You didn't let him down hun, and he never would have thought that .... I understand how hard this is for you but please, please do not ever think you let him down - he was your special boy and he would never think you had let him down. It was purely circumstances and a total accident. You need time...
by tilly
Sun Mar 01, 2015 5:50 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

People who haven't had cats do not understand how special the bond is ... your little Tilly will always be with you - that bond is too strong to break and he can give you a hug whenever you want - just remember how special he was and he will be with you xx Thankyou, i just feel so guilty for lettin...
by tilly
Sun Mar 01, 2015 5:34 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Hi, hope you are ok and starting to see how that this wasn't your fault it was just one of those things. It's so hard loosing a pet and even when it's through old age or ill health there will always be something we beat ourselves up over that we could have done differently. It was a terrible accide...
by tilly
Sun Mar 01, 2015 5:28 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

I have a Tilly-cat too (mine is a little girl) and we are sending hugs to you x I thought my Tilly was a girl, his bits looked different to his siblings when i choose him, but then one day i realised that he wasnt the female i had planned on getting after all. im glad i chose him though, he was so ...
by tilly
Sun Mar 01, 2015 12:30 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really missing him right now
Replies: 5
Views: 2105

Re: Really missing him right now

lily71 wrote: Sometimes I feel as if I sound like a stuck record! Lol! xx
I feel like a stuck record too, i dont see a way out of the pain. It was windy last night so the cat flap was banging, i just kept thinking he was coming home. I get how you feel and im so sorry.
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:24 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

thank you Walesgang and peanuts friend for your replies, why i feel so guilty is because i scared my cat trying to stop the puppy barking, thats what caused him to suddenly run across the road, i thought i was helping tilly but as you can see i made things worse. im now with this puppy who needs me,...
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:13 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

I truly understand...my 'CC' was only about 7 years old when we had him put to sleep, far too young...he too meant everything to me, I have no children, but he was my special boy, we went through so much together, I rescued him from the street when he was thin and hungry and tired, God knows what h...
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

I truly understand what you mean and you must be heartbroken...but none of us know 'what might have happened.."....you are torturing yourself with the 'might have happened' please don't do this, everything you did was in Tillys best interests, it was just an accident, no one is to blame, please , y...
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 5:00 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

It was not your fault at all...Tilly would probably have ran out in any case, you didn't startle her, she just decided to run away .....please don't blame yourself, we have all been there...I blamed myself for not taking my last boy 'CC' to the vets earlier, when I noticed he was eating strangely a...
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 2:46 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Your cat looks so much like my Tilly in that picture...... I let him down, i tried to protect him but he got ran over because i startled him, but i was trying to stop my sons dog from barking and tilly ran into the road, he had never been near the road before, he was 14, he had always stayed in my g...
by tilly
Sat Feb 28, 2015 2:17 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10302

my cat died today, it was my fault

he was always there for me but its my fault that he is not with me now. how do i deal with it.