Search found 29 matches

by Wanda6688
Mon Nov 21, 2016 11:37 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Mayday's 1st anniversary
Replies: 6
Views: 4033

Re: Mayday's 1st anniversary

Hi Vivian, One year ago - so sad I know, you were there for me (as well as many other) when I lost 'The Cat', who gave me great support which I will never forget. It will be one year next Monday for me, they do leave a big hole but like you I have adopted a new fur baby who is adorable, but you alwa...
by Wanda6688
Sat Jun 11, 2016 10:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13484

Re: The hurt is unbearable

Hi, I have followed your post but so far I have not replied - sorry for that - it upsets me as I completely understand that feeling of sorrow and loss. I have my boy's ashes on my bedside table - maybe a little morbid but there is a part of me that doesn't want to let him go - yes, I should and he s...
by Wanda6688
Wed May 04, 2016 11:21 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 15
Views: 5621

Re: Overwhelming grief

I also agree with the other posts - I know how hard it is to lose a much loved pet but I have been helping out with my local Cats Protection and I find that it gives me something back. I don't do much for them as I work full time, but when I can help, I do. Sometimes with their homing events and tak...
by Wanda6688
Sun May 01, 2016 9:16 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 15
Views: 5621

Re: Overwhelming grief

I used Blue Cross in the very early days and found them very helpful. Yes, I totally understand that the grief takes you in waves - one minute you are OK and then it hits you so hard you are back to where to where you started. I guess that is what grief does to you. Did I suffer depression - well I ...
by Wanda6688
Fri Apr 22, 2016 11:39 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 15
Views: 5621

Re: Overwhelming grief

Tracy - so sorry for your loss, I know how that feels - time is great healer and although you won't feel it now, it is true. Post on here whenever you need to.

Take care xx
by Wanda6688
Mon Apr 18, 2016 3:16 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: What to do when your animals are all you have?
Replies: 19
Views: 4779

Re: What to do when your animals are all you have?

Hi Kris35, It does get easier, honestly, but it took me a long time and I still miss my boy and have a weep every now and then (like now as I write this!). There does however come a time when you remember all the fun times and the joy that they bring you. Having another cat has helped a great deal b...
by Wanda6688
Sun Apr 17, 2016 11:33 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: What to do when your animals are all you have?
Replies: 19
Views: 4779

Re: What to do when your animals are all you have?

Hello Kris 35, So sorry to hear about poor Tezzy. I know how you are feeling, when I lost my boy last Nov, I was in bits and did go to a dark place. The others on here helped a great deal but it is only through time that you get through the feelings you are going through right now. I live alone (whi...
by Wanda6688
Wed Mar 23, 2016 11:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Re: Does it get any easier?

Molly has now been with me for nearly 2 weeks, she is lovely. I have just reread my initial post when 'The Cat' was pts and the hurt is still there, but Molly has given me something back. I have given a home to a cat that wasn't wanted anymore. Surely that is the greatest gift we can give - whilst i...
by Wanda6688
Tue Mar 08, 2016 2:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Re: Does it get any easier?

I haven't been on here for a while but thought I would post an update. On Friday I will collect a lovely 2 year old tortie female (Molly) who is coming to live with me. It has taken me 3 months before I was able to think about getting another cat but I realise that I need one in my home and life. To...
by Wanda6688
Mon Feb 15, 2016 10:22 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Cat cremation
Replies: 9
Views: 2720

Re: Cat cremation

Hello - so sorry to read about your experiences but one sentence of yours in particular made me want to respond 'I just feel like I am jinxed - 2 cats dying at a young age and not getting ashes for either of them. Feels like I am being punished' - no, no, no, it was not your fault in any way. It is ...
by Wanda6688
Wed Feb 10, 2016 10:40 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Elsa ckd rip
Replies: 4
Views: 1475

Re: Elsa ckd rip

Oh dear - so sorry, what a shock. Give your love to Jezebel, she will come round, give her time.

With best wishes xx
by Wanda6688
Mon Feb 08, 2016 10:53 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Grieving once more
Replies: 6
Views: 1710

Re: Grieving once more

So Sorry to read your post - how very sad - yes I know it is raw however it will get better but yes there will be times when all you want to do is curl up in a ball and cry. I did and and still do after the loss of my boy late last year. Someone said to me on here - 'they take a cat shaped hole from...
by Wanda6688
Sun Jan 31, 2016 10:05 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Preparing for the worst
Replies: 26
Views: 6461

Re: Preparing for the worst

So sorry for poor Bob, RIP xx
by Wanda6688
Wed Jan 27, 2016 1:26 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Miss him so much
Replies: 13
Views: 4473

Re: Miss him so much

So sorry that I talked about the loss of my cat when you were going through so much pain, but I just wanted you to know that I understand. The misery is raw - I know that feeling, it hurts like hell - but it does get better slowly, please remember that! xx
by Wanda6688
Mon Jan 25, 2016 10:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Preparing for the worst
Replies: 26
Views: 6461

Re: Preparing for the worst

So sorry to hear about poor Bob, I don't know if you remember but my cat had the same condition. He seemed fine up until the last day and a half but when I took him to the vets, he said it was time and that he looked tired. I know it will be hard but it is the right thing to do, you love him and car...
by Wanda6688
Sat Jan 23, 2016 11:49 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Miss him so much
Replies: 13
Views: 4473

Re: Miss him so much

So sorry to hear about your loss - I completely understand how you are feeling. Over time you will feel better and remember the good times but I know that is too soon for you. For me I lost my cat 'The Cat' 30th Nov last year and most nights I cry for him as I still miss him so much but I do remembe...
by Wanda6688
Sat Jan 16, 2016 11:45 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day
Replies: 24
Views: 5899

Re: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day

Anna,

How beautiful and yes so sad at the same time. Cats are free spirits and they need their own space in life and in death - what a wonderful memorial. I still have my cat in a wooden box - maybe I should let him free to enjoy the garden he loved so much.

Take care xx

Sandra
by Wanda6688
Wed Jan 06, 2016 11:35 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day
Replies: 24
Views: 5899

Re: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day

Anna, I have just re-read your initial post and again cried, I admit that it was not only for you but selfishly also for myself - it has been just over 5 weeks since I lost my boy and not a day goes by when I don't think about him (he is on my bedside table in a beautiful wooden box). Saying that, I...
by Wanda6688
Sun Jan 03, 2016 11:37 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I feel so guilty
Replies: 9
Views: 2226

Re: I feel so guilty

Didi, So sorry to hear about poor Milo, it is easy for me to say 'don't feel guilty' but I know you will as I did too when I made the final decision for my boy. The 'what if I had done something sooner, why didn't I notice he was poorly', these feelings are completely natural. However, please know t...
by Wanda6688
Thu Dec 31, 2015 10:26 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.
Replies: 33
Views: 5970

Re: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.

To everyone who has lost their best friend this year - human or otherwise - I will raise a glass and look to the future but will never forget - for me personally, it will for 'The Cat' who I loved dearly and miss terribly xx
by Wanda6688
Tue Dec 29, 2015 10:13 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.
Replies: 33
Views: 5970

Re: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.

Beautiful boy - yes a prince among cats xx
by Wanda6688
Sun Dec 27, 2015 10:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day
Replies: 24
Views: 5899

Re: Lost my beautiful angel Binky Christmas Day

Anna1502, So sad to read you post - I know, as well as many others on here, exactly what you are feeling right now, it is raw, it hurts and you will cry and cry. This is normal, for anyone who has known the love of a cat they are our soulmates, friends and companions and to lose them is terrible. Pl...
by Wanda6688
Sun Dec 27, 2015 9:10 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.
Replies: 33
Views: 5970

Re: RIP Thomas, Prince among cats.

So very sorry to hear this - how sad, all of our thoughts are with you x
by Wanda6688
Thu Dec 24, 2015 11:13 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sudden death age 5 :(
Replies: 8
Views: 3170

Re: Sudden death age 5 :(

So sorry to hear about Dora - there is no such thing as 'just a cat', they are all so special. I lost my cat just over 3 weeks ago and now I am feeling guilty - what if I has done this or that - but I know it wouldn't have changed anything, it is still very hard but it does get better over time. It ...
by Wanda6688
Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:56 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: such grief and guilt help!!
Replies: 9
Views: 2373

Re: such grief and guilt help!!

Missey, You did do the right thing, it is the kindest thing to have done, I know what it feels like as do many others on here. I still miss my boy terribly and I thought that bringing his ashes home would help - to begin with it didn't and I felt dreadful for a few days (crying, crying and then cryi...
by Wanda6688
Mon Dec 14, 2015 12:35 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Re: Does it get any easier?

Sorry to be so self indulgent but I have gone downhill tonight - not sure why, almost feel I am back to where I was over 10 days ago. I still haven't got my boy's ashes yet, the people at the vets said they would call me but still nothing. I will call tomorrow as I need some sort of closure - not su...
by Wanda6688
Tue Dec 08, 2015 12:50 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Re: Does it get any easier?

Thanks for all your comments, it is getting easier, I miss my boy dreadfully but I can now think back with smiles to the good times when he was younger and healthier. I still have a major wobble now and then, usually at the strangest time, for example in Tesco's last night I went down the pet food i...
by Wanda6688
Fri Dec 04, 2015 4:05 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Re: Does it get any easier?

Thank you all for your comments, they have helped a great deal. To know that complete strangers have spent time reading and replying to my post restores my faith in human nature. Yesterday was a rough day which is strange because the day before I looked at all the photos I have of him without gettin...
by Wanda6688
Thu Dec 03, 2015 10:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Does it get any easier?
Replies: 24
Views: 5403

Does it get any easier?

'The Cat' 2.jpg Hello, My cat was put to sleep on Monday evening after many infections but it was found he had a tumour in his mouth. I have cried constantly since then and feel I will never get over it, I know I will but I miss him dreadfully. I live alone and work from home so he was with me 24 h...