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by fjm
Sun Sep 22, 2019 9:38 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Shower question
Replies: 6
Views: 64

Re: Shower question

I once lived by the river in Oxford, on a lovely safe traffic free towpath. I could never understand why my garden was always full of rubber bands until I watched the postman carelessly discarding a couple one day, and Toby dash out to retrieve them. He was the cat that discovered very early on just...
by fjm
Sat Sep 21, 2019 1:14 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Panic!!! Not neutered!!!
Replies: 15
Views: 79

Re: Panic!!! Not neutered!!!

Hmmmm... I think I would separate them as much as possible if she is showing signs of calling, just in case. You may have an early blooming boy, and it is only for a few days. If she is calling it may be safer to postpone spaying her until she has finished - it would be safer in the early stages of ...
by fjm
Tue Sep 17, 2019 7:14 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Separating Kittens from mom
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Separating Kittens from mom

Ideally, of course, the kittens would go from your house to their new home, but given how very well you have socialised them through these important early months I think they will be more than capable of coping with a few days in a good shelter if necessary. A hell hole would be different, of course...
by fjm
Tue Sep 17, 2019 7:07 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Cat vomiting up everything
Replies: 4
Views: 53

Re: Cat vomiting up everything

I agree with Mollycat - if you cook for your cat you need to ensure all the nutritional bases are covered (calcium/phosphorus balance in particular), and check the calorie content of what you are feeding. It takes time and energy, and if your work is overwhelming a good commercial food may be a bett...
by fjm
Mon Sep 16, 2019 6:50 am
Forum: Rescue & Rehoming - General
Topic: Adoption: shelter or private sale?
Replies: 14
Views: 143

Re: Adoption: shelter or private sale?

One big advantage of going through a reputable centre is that cats and kittens should have been tested for FIV and FeLV before you meet them and fall in love. I had a kitten from a local farm that died at age 1 from a massive tumour... Plus anything you pay will go towards supporting all the other c...
by fjm
Sat Sep 14, 2019 7:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Anticipatory grief for my super senior Chuckie
Replies: 6
Views: 74

Re: Anticipatory grief for my super senior Chuckie

I think there is often relief when the moment you have been dreading finally comes. It does not lessen the pain, but the uncertainty and fear of the unknown are passed, even though the grief remains. I do not think you have anything to regret - he lived a long and happy life, loved and loving to the...
by fjm
Fri Sep 13, 2019 6:27 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Jaundice
Replies: 13
Views: 150

Re: Jaundice

That is such good news! I hope she continues to recover quickly and is soon back to normal.
by fjm
Fri Sep 13, 2019 6:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Anticipatory grief for my super senior Chuckie
Replies: 6
Views: 74

Re: Anticipatory grief for my super senior Chuckie

Mollycat has said it so beautifully. It is an agonising decision, but my own experience has taught me that it is one better made a day too soon than a day too late, once the time has come. My thoughts are with you today, as you prepare to say goodbye to the companion of so many years.
by fjm
Wed Sep 11, 2019 6:43 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Question on Spaying
Replies: 18
Views: 181

Re: Question on Spaying

I agree with the other replies. Mine have always come home a few hours after the op, and in my experience the first day is very much sleeping off the anaesthetic. These days I believe they give them long lasting pain relief during the op, but are wary of overdoing it - if the cat feels nothing they ...
by fjm
Mon Sep 09, 2019 7:22 am
Forum: FIV Questions & Answers
Topic: Aggression
Replies: 5
Views: 53

Re: Aggression

It does sound as if another cat is not the solution for you. I would try lots of more vigorous play, redirecting him when he pounces. Fishing line toys, chasing toys - perhaps even clicker training him to retrieve and do tricks. The devil finds prey for idle paws...
by fjm
Mon Sep 09, 2019 6:36 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Help appreciated! My usually affectionate cat is no longer!
Replies: 6
Views: 73

Re: Help appreciated! My usually affectionate cat is no longer!

The first suspicion when a cat shows sudden behavioural changes is that she is in pain or unwell - if she is less interested in food that could also be a sign of illness. I would take her to your vet for a check up, just in case. You say she is either outside or watching from the window - is she gua...
by fjm
Mon Sep 09, 2019 6:27 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: 6 months old kitten pregnat
Replies: 3
Views: 68

Re: 6 months old kitten pregnat

I had a cat when I was very young that got pregnant at the same age - she needed some help from me in cutting cords and drying the kittens, but she gave birth without problems. She did stay small all her life - too much nutrition going to the kittens rather than into growing. I would plan on being w...
by fjm
Sun Sep 08, 2019 7:35 am
Forum: FIV Questions & Answers
Topic: Aggression
Replies: 5
Views: 53

Re: Aggression

Pippin got like this when he was around 9 months old. I adopted him with his brother Mallow, and one Sunday morning Mallow vanished, never to be seen again. Pippin was desperate for a playmate and his play attacking got ferocious over the next weeks, but settled down immediately he had Tilly to play...
by fjm
Tue Sep 03, 2019 7:11 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Best way to give a cat laxatone?
Replies: 9
Views: 81

Re: Best way to give a cat laxatone?

Which flavour are you using? Have you tried the chicken or tuna one? Perhaps mixing it into a really high value treat like Lick-e-lix would do the trick? And try offering it to her to lick from a spoon, rather than having to grab her to smear it on, which my cats have always hated. I would also find...
by fjm
Mon Sep 02, 2019 8:39 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Fostering Question
Replies: 4
Views: 89

Re: Fostering Question

I agree - just make sure the mother cat can get away from the kittens (and back to them) and let her sort it out. She will gradually leave them for longer and longer, and discourage suckling as Lilith says - those teeth and claws are sharp! My Siamese always heaved a huge sigh of relief when the las...
by fjm
Sun Sep 01, 2019 2:42 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Grain free or doesn't matter unless allergies?
Replies: 4
Views: 54

Re: Grain free or doesn't matter unless allergies?

In general the more meat the better in cat food - cats are obligate carnivores, which means that unlike human omnivores (and even some other meat eaters like dogs) there are many essential amino acids etc that they cannot make themselves, and have to get from meat. Grains are cheap fillers to bulk u...
by fjm
Sun Sep 01, 2019 12:34 pm
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Kittens pooping on carpet
Replies: 4
Views: 72

Re: Kittens pooping on carpet

Are you using an enzyme cleaner? That, together with strategically placed trays, may help. But as they have learned to toilet in a place treated as one huge tray you may need to do rather more toilet training than is usually needed for kittens, perhaps trying some of the methods used for puppies. Wa...
by fjm
Sun Sep 01, 2019 10:48 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Can my cat smell the old cats?
Replies: 3
Views: 46

Re: Can my cat smell the old cats?

New territory is scary for cats - there might be anything out there. I would make a safe place for her, plus several high spots to survey her new world, and let her get used to the change in her own time. There may be old scents that are adding to her anxiety, but I suspect it is mostly fear of the ...
by fjm
Sat Aug 31, 2019 9:47 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: The joy of food...
Replies: 9
Views: 106

Re: The joy of food...

Which make are they, Mollycat?
by fjm
Sat Aug 31, 2019 6:32 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: The joy of food...
Replies: 9
Views: 106

Re: The joy of food...

I have considered a chip operated bowl, but I don't think they work to keep out extra noses that join in while they are still open - my animals are all prone to barge in rather than take turns if I am not there to supervise. I suspect the tiny noise of one opening would have the others running to tr...
by fjm
Fri Aug 30, 2019 7:20 pm
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: The joy of food...
Replies: 9
Views: 106

Re: The joy of food...

It is not easy - she likes to eat a mouse-equivalent portion every few hours, but also likes it to be the right food, absolutely fresh and at exactly the right moment. The blackbirds have been raiding the outside bowl, and there are few places indoors safe from the dogs. The frozen bowl seems to be ...
by fjm
Fri Aug 30, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: The joy of food...
Replies: 9
Views: 106

The joy of food...

Me: Tilly, you are losing weight, and the vet says this is Not Good. Have some of your favourite food. Tilly: Not hungry. Don't want it. Me: What would you like, then? Tilly: Chunks of raw beef and chicken and liver and... Me, after shopping: Here you are! Tilly: YUM, Yum, ummm - had enough. Next da...
by fjm
Fri Aug 23, 2019 1:08 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Agressive play
Replies: 5
Views: 45

Re: Agressive play

Can you separate them when you are not there to supervise? You don't say whether the cats are allowed outside - having more space to roam and more stimulation often helps dissipate excess energy. I would also play with him more yourselves - fishing pole toys, tossing a toy for him, tug toys, anythin...
by fjm
Wed Aug 21, 2019 6:36 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: He's gone
Replies: 14
Views: 165

Re: He's gone

I am so sorry - you knew he would not be with you for much longer, but it is still a shock.
by fjm
Sat Aug 17, 2019 1:19 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: mite infestation
Replies: 4
Views: 56

Re: mite infestation

I would expect your vet to recognise harvest mites, though. Do you have rabbits, as well as cats? Or other animals? Could it be something more commonly found on another animal? Or ear mites, outside their usual range? But if it is new to your vet it is unlikely to be anything that occurs frequently ...
by fjm
Sat Aug 17, 2019 7:32 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Playing chess with the reaper
Replies: 15
Views: 172

Re: Playing chess with the reaper

I am so sorry. Sleep well, Boo, after a long life well lived.
by fjm
Fri Aug 16, 2019 12:19 pm
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Help or advice needed urgently!
Replies: 10
Views: 100

Re: Help or advice needed urgently!

I would look into social care agencies, if you can afford it. A 30 minute visit twice a day would be reassuring for you if you need help, and you could stipulate help with the cat trays! Or advertise for help locally - lots of capable, animal loving young people who might be ready to help for a reas...
by fjm
Tue Aug 13, 2019 10:52 am
Forum: Rescue & Rehoming - General
Topic: Adopted cat advice please
Replies: 4
Views: 128

Re: Adopted cat advice please

I think, as she has been with you such a short time, she may be displaying learned behaviour. Perhaps the person she knew and trusted best in the past was a man, and so she is drawn to your husband. Give her time - once she knows you, and knows you are the main source of food and play and comfort th...
by fjm
Tue Aug 13, 2019 9:16 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Wet Food Cemented on Kittens Face, HELP!
Replies: 5
Views: 52

Re: Wet Food Cemented on Kittens Face, HELP!

I agree - soak it off. And resist the urge to pick at it, which will hurt. Soggy cotton wool or kitchen towel or old face flannel, a bowl of warm water, and some really good treats, repeated every hour or so until it is all gone - just get it wet and leave it. Eventually it will just wipe away with ...
by fjm
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:04 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Oh help, what do I do !!!
Replies: 7
Views: 147

Re: Oh Help, what do I do !!!

I would put up notices and post something on local social media. An unneutered male out roaming is probably a farm cat or semi feral, but it would be kind to try and find the owner. And do not blame yourself - it is impossible to avoid a cat that runs right under your wheels, and you have done your ...