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by BobbiRobbie
Sun Dec 02, 2018 9:14 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 239

Re: I keep dreaming of him

I very much believe in dreams being signs or messages. Maybe that sounds a bit airy fairy, but oh well ;) Perhaps Bertie was't refusing to come in. Maybe he wanted to but couldn't because it's not possible to be with you physically anymore. Either way, he wouldn't be angry as you did what was best f...
by BobbiRobbie
Sun Dec 02, 2018 9:03 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Doubts about cremation
Replies: 7
Views: 343

Re: Doubts about cremation

Everyone is different when it comes to death and griefing. Some people want to keep hold of something "physical" and others don't feel the need; neither is right or wrong, we're all different :) When my boy Charlie had to be pts, I couldn't bear not to bring him home. I didn't want to bury him in th...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Mar 10, 2018 10:06 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Stage 4 kidney disease and diet
Replies: 19
Views: 3621

Re: Stage 4 kidney disease and diet

My Charlie persevered with the Hills KD food for quite some time, but he kept losing weight and was clearly not eating as much as he should. In the end I mixed half the renal food with normal senior cat food and that made a difference. It wasn't ideal for his kidneys, but I reasoned that if he was e...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Mar 10, 2018 10:02 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Gutted and nesting support
Replies: 13
Views: 2551

Re: Gutted and nesting support

So sorry for your loss, Lowkey. You did your very best for Oscar and at the end he was comfortable and peaceful. A truly selfless act. I had to have my boy Charlie pts on new year's day. Like you, I'd had a few years of being back and forth at the vets with tests etc. I never expected to lose him so...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Feb 03, 2018 5:27 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling extremely anxious about the way I feel
Replies: 9
Views: 1731

Re: Feeling extremely anxious about the way I feel

bobbys girl wrote:
BobbiRobbie wrote:Take your time. There is not one way to grieve. We're all different. Some days you may be alright and then out of the blue you might get extremely upset, like I did yesterday. x
Sorry to hear that, BobbiRobbie, (hugs)
Sue
Thanks Sue x
by BobbiRobbie
Wed Jan 31, 2018 9:53 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling extremely anxious about the way I feel
Replies: 9
Views: 1731

Re: Feeling extremely anxious about the way I feel

I can't add much to what has already been said. I'm sorry for your loss and like everyone here, I relate to your pain. I lost my beautiful boy Charlie on new year's day, albeit under difference circumstances. Like you, there are days when I feel "okay" and yet I feel I'm betraying him because I thin...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 13, 2018 10:06 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Meet Lukas
Replies: 27
Views: 5117

Re: Meet Lukas

What a beautiful boy :)

Glad his procedure went okay and wishing him well for his check-ups!
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 13, 2018 10:01 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Cat started peeing on carpet
Replies: 4
Views: 1156

Re: Cat started peeing on carpet

There could be many possible explanations as covered in the link that Janey provided. Seeing as he was possibly in a car accident a few years' ago it may be necessary to rule out anything neurological. Either way it doesn't sound like he's a happy cat at the moment so as Janey said, I would take him...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 13, 2018 9:47 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Cat started peeing on carpet
Replies: 4
Views: 1156

Re: Cat started peeing on carpet

There could be many possible explanations but seeing as he's possibly been in a car accident a few years' ago it may be neurological. Either way it doesn't sound like he's a happy cat at the moment so as Janey said, I would take him for a check-up before October just to be on the safe side.
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 13, 2018 9:34 am
Forum: Rescue & Rehoming - General
Topic: Sudden Personality/Temperament Change in Cat
Replies: 1
Views: 696

Re: Sudden Personality/Temperament Change in Cat

I'm not a cat behaviour expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I do have to monitor the behaviour of people as part of my job and see what the triggers might be to their different behaviours, some of which can be very aggressive. I guess there could be a number of things affecting your cat's ...
by BobbiRobbie
Thu Jan 11, 2018 4:53 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Very true that it's their loss. I'm glad to have loved Charlie so deeply (still do) :)
by BobbiRobbie
Wed Jan 10, 2018 9:51 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Hi Jo, Thanks for your reply and so sorry for your loss. Time does indeed fly. Finding your cat's whisker is a precious thing. I found a couple shells of Charlie's shedded claws and put these in a little box along with some bits of fur. I'm getting more used to Charlie not being around, but it doesn...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 06, 2018 5:09 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Yeah, they do :)

Lovely to have this.
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 06, 2018 4:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Today has been difficult, perhaps because it's the weekend and I've not got work to distract me. I woke up and fed my dog, took in the silence of the house and started crying. I did go out to see a friend today and it was nice to chat to her, so that was a distraction. I also took my unopened cat fo...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 06, 2018 4:02 pm
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Cat flap issue
Replies: 8
Views: 1327

Re: Cat flap issue

Thank you but there is no problem with him outside to per. I don't need a litter tray. Thats not the issue here. The issue is for him to be able to go outside and enjoy himself when he wants to e.g. early hours of the morning he likes to go outside not necessarily to pee but to chase insects and hu...
by BobbiRobbie
Sat Jan 06, 2018 8:59 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Cat flap issue
Replies: 8
Views: 1327

Re: Cat flap issue

Welcome Katrina :) I can't give advice on the cat flap I'm afraid as my boy Charlie would just sit by the back door and meow when he wanted to go out. In the eight years I had him I only ever saw him pee in the garden once . He would always go back into the house from the garden to use his litter tr...
by BobbiRobbie
Fri Jan 05, 2018 8:15 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

I've been looking through more photographs tonight and also found a few videos of Charlie which I'd forgotten about. I'm so grateful to have the videos as I can hear him meow again :) We have a couple of videos where my husband has one of those fluffy 'snake' things on a stick and is trying to get h...
by BobbiRobbie
Fri Jan 05, 2018 11:34 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Double Trouble
Replies: 14
Views: 2754

Re: Double Trouble

Aww, so young! Good luck with the decorations!
by BobbiRobbie
Fri Jan 05, 2018 11:33 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

I'm sure we're not :)

It's nice to hear others do the same though. It reassures me that I'm not weird!
by BobbiRobbie
Fri Jan 05, 2018 6:44 am
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Double Trouble
Replies: 14
Views: 2754

Re: Double Trouble

Your kitties are gorgeous, Sue. How old are your kittens?

My Charlie never seemed bothered with our Christmas tree. I suspect climbing it would have been too much effort for him :lol:

Jo
by BobbiRobbie
Fri Jan 05, 2018 6:03 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Thank you Grace, your words mean a lot. I'm sorry to hear about Dave - what a wonderful name for a cat! I'll keep you both in my thoughts. This forum is so helpful because I'm able to talk about Charlie and how I feel; the good memories and the sad things. My husband mentioned last night that he'd t...
by BobbiRobbie
Thu Jan 04, 2018 6:59 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Letting go
Replies: 12
Views: 1332

Re: Letting go

I'm sorry for your loss, Issi. I'm early stages into my experience, but I totally agree that we all grieve differently. I often worry that people might think I'm weird for some of my choices but one of my friends said to do what's right for me and nevermind what anyone else thinks. There are some th...
by BobbiRobbie
Thu Jan 04, 2018 4:13 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Thanks so much, Issi. Yours and other people's responses are really helpful. I love the image you conjured in my mind of sliding a yorkshire pudding to your Gandhi! Charlie was known to stick his head in my hubby's glass if he filled it with milk and left it unattended by the sofa. Charlie was the o...
by BobbiRobbie
Thu Jan 04, 2018 1:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Your Tommy clearly had good taste in meat! Bless him! I'd left an empty pizza box on the floor in the kitchen once as I needed to break it up to fit it in the bin. I came back into the kitchen a little while later and all I could see is Charlie's rear end poking out from the box. Luckily it was empt...
by BobbiRobbie
Wed Jan 03, 2018 9:04 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Thanks Vivian. It's really helping me to read around the forum, even the posts from people talking about how their new additions are getting on. I can tell this forum is full of people who have nothing but love for cats and so I'm in a place where people understand. Tonight it was a little easier wa...
by BobbiRobbie
Wed Jan 03, 2018 2:25 pm
Forum: General Cat Chatting!
Topic: Arnie and his slave in Malta, 3 months on...
Replies: 20
Views: 3221

Re: Arnie and his slave in Malta, 3 months on...

I'm new here but enjoyed reading your journey with Arnie, Mittens, and Ollie. I love the photos and the fact that Arnie seems to be punching the camera. Totally fits with your descriptions of him :)
by BobbiRobbie
Tue Jan 02, 2018 8:43 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Thanks so much, Sue. Sorry for your loss of Tommy. Any time of year is hard but this time just feels worse somehow.

We have loads of photos of Charlie. I'm going to sort through them with my husband and see which we can print and frame :)
by BobbiRobbie
Tue Jan 02, 2018 7:40 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

That's beautiful, Kay, thank you. Had me tearing up :(
by BobbiRobbie
Tue Jan 02, 2018 6:36 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Re: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Thank you, Kay. I'm so glad I found this website/forum today. I was at work today and whilst I couldn't wait to get home and have a cry with my husband I knew that Charlie wouldn't be there to come over to me and meow at me when I came through the door. Our dog is unusually quiet tonight. My husband...
by BobbiRobbie
Tue Jan 02, 2018 11:45 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy
Replies: 24
Views: 4462

Had to say goodbye to our Beautiful Boy

Hi everyone, it's my first time here. My husband and I had to make the heartbreaking decision to have our beautiful cat Charlie put to sleep yesterday. Not the start to 2018 that we expected. I got him as a rescue cat in 2009, so we're unsure exactly how old he was, but we think he was about 13/14 y...