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I very much believe in dreams being signs or messages. Maybe that sounds a bit airy fairy, but oh well ;) Perhaps Bertie was't refusing to come in. Maybe he wanted to but couldn't because it's not possible to be with you physically anymore. Either way, he wouldn't be angry as you did what was best f...

Everyone is different when it comes to death and griefing. Some people want to keep hold of something "physical" and others don't feel the need; neither is right or wrong, we're all different :) When my boy Charlie had to be pts, I couldn't bear not to bring him home. I didn't want to bury...

My Charlie persevered with the Hills KD food for quite some time, but he kept losing weight and was clearly not eating as much as he should. In the end I mixed half the renal food with normal senior cat food and that made a difference. It wasn't ideal for his kidneys, but I reasoned that if he was e...

So sorry for your loss, Lowkey. You did your very best for Oscar and at the end he was comfortable and peaceful. A truly selfless act. I had to have my boy Charlie pts on new year's day. Like you, I'd had a few years of being back and forth at the vets with tests etc. I never expected to lose him so...

bobbys girl wrote:

BobbiRobbie wrote:Take your time. There is not one way to grieve. We're all different. Some days you may be alright and then out of the blue you might get extremely upset, like I did yesterday. x

Sorry to hear that, BobbiRobbie, (hugs)
Sue

Thanks Sue x

I can't add much to what has already been said. I'm sorry for your loss and like everyone here, I relate to your pain. I lost my beautiful boy Charlie on new year's day, albeit under difference circumstances. Like you, there are days when I feel "okay" and yet I feel I'm betraying him beca...

What a beautiful boy

Glad his procedure went okay and wishing him well for his check-ups!

There could be many possible explanations as covered in the link that Janey provided. Seeing as he was possibly in a car accident a few years' ago it may be necessary to rule out anything neurological. Either way it doesn't sound like he's a happy cat at the moment so as Janey said, I would take him...

There could be many possible explanations but seeing as he's possibly been in a car accident a few years' ago it may be neurological. Either way it doesn't sound like he's a happy cat at the moment so as Janey said, I would take him for a check-up before October just to be on the safe side.

I'm not a cat behaviour expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I do have to monitor the behaviour of people as part of my job and see what the triggers might be to their different behaviours, some of which can be very aggressive. I guess there could be a number of things affecting your cat's ...

Very true that it's their loss. I'm glad to have loved Charlie so deeply (still do)

Hi Jo, Thanks for your reply and so sorry for your loss. Time does indeed fly. Finding your cat's whisker is a precious thing. I found a couple shells of Charlie's shedded claws and put these in a little box along with some bits of fur. I'm getting more used to Charlie not being around, but it doesn...

Yeah, they do

Lovely to have this.

Today has been difficult, perhaps because it's the weekend and I've not got work to distract me. I woke up and fed my dog, took in the silence of the house and started crying. I did go out to see a friend today and it was nice to chat to her, so that was a distraction. I also took my unopened cat fo...

Thank you but there is no problem with him outside to per. I don't need a litter tray. Thats not the issue here. The issue is for him to be able to go outside and enjoy himself when he wants to e.g. early hours of the morning he likes to go outside not necessarily to pee but to chase insects and hu...

Welcome Katrina :) I can't give advice on the cat flap I'm afraid as my boy Charlie would just sit by the back door and meow when he wanted to go out. In the eight years I had him I only ever saw him pee in the garden once . He would always go back into the house from the garden to use his litter tr...

I've been looking through more photographs tonight and also found a few videos of Charlie which I'd forgotten about. I'm so grateful to have the videos as I can hear him meow again :) We have a couple of videos where my husband has one of those fluffy 'snake' things on a stick and is trying to get h...

Aww, so young! Good luck with the decorations!

I'm sure we're not

It's nice to hear others do the same though. It reassures me that I'm not weird!

Your kitties are gorgeous, Sue. How old are your kittens?

My Charlie never seemed bothered with our Christmas tree. I suspect climbing it would have been too much effort for him

Jo

Thank you Grace, your words mean a lot. I'm sorry to hear about Dave - what a wonderful name for a cat! I'll keep you both in my thoughts. This forum is so helpful because I'm able to talk about Charlie and how I feel; the good memories and the sad things. My husband mentioned last night that he'd t...

I'm sorry for your loss, Issi. I'm early stages into my experience, but I totally agree that we all grieve differently. I often worry that people might think I'm weird for some of my choices but one of my friends said to do what's right for me and nevermind what anyone else thinks. There are some th...

Thanks so much, Issi. Yours and other people's responses are really helpful. I love the image you conjured in my mind of sliding a yorkshire pudding to your Gandhi! Charlie was known to stick his head in my hubby's glass if he filled it with milk and left it unattended by the sofa. Charlie was the o...

Your Tommy clearly had good taste in meat! Bless him! I'd left an empty pizza box on the floor in the kitchen once as I needed to break it up to fit it in the bin. I came back into the kitchen a little while later and all I could see is Charlie's rear end poking out from the box. Luckily it was empt...

Thanks Vivian. It's really helping me to read around the forum, even the posts from people talking about how their new additions are getting on. I can tell this forum is full of people who have nothing but love for cats and so I'm in a place where people understand. Tonight it was a little easier wa...

I'm new here but enjoyed reading your journey with Arnie, Mittens, and Ollie. I love the photos and the fact that Arnie seems to be punching the camera. Totally fits with your descriptions of him

Thanks so much, Sue. Sorry for your loss of Tommy. Any time of year is hard but this time just feels worse somehow.

We have loads of photos of Charlie. I'm going to sort through them with my husband and see which we can print and frame

That's beautiful, Kay, thank you. Had me tearing up

Thank you, Kay. I'm so glad I found this website/forum today. I was at work today and whilst I couldn't wait to get home and have a cry with my husband I knew that Charlie wouldn't be there to come over to me and meow at me when I came through the door. Our dog is unusually quiet tonight. My husband...

Hi everyone, it's my first time here. My husband and I had to make the heartbreaking decision to have our beautiful cat Charlie put to sleep yesterday. Not the start to 2018 that we expected. I got him as a rescue cat in 2009, so we're unsure exactly how old he was, but we think he was about 13/14 y...