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by Bertie 2017
Sun Dec 08, 2019 4:26 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 34
Views: 8915

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Hi sorry for your loss , I have read your story And trust me , it wasn’t your flaunt , often We live a busy life , where everything goes Wrong , a chain of events , that sadly ended Badly sadly we cannot see the future , if We could , we would be fair warded But often we do blame ourselves for Somet...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Dec 01, 2019 5:23 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My Baby Buddy
Replies: 4
Views: 153

Re: My Baby Buddy

Hi first of all sorry for your loss , it’s hard enough Losing a beloved cat , let alone not finding out Why ? . I have learned through my own loss There is more questions than answers , all these Thoughts and feelings , can make you feel crazy Grief is cruel and heartless , and in life we May never ...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Nov 21, 2019 10:36 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 147

Re: I am starting to feel depressed again

Thank you all so much ,for your kind words and support ,I am blessed to have Bertie’s Litter mate ,Basil ,too help me pick up the pieces ,but I feel in my heart ,I cannot ever Love another cat again ( except basil of course ) I am a crazy cat lady ,in my forties , Who has cats in the family ,since I...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 1:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Not letting go is destroying me
Replies: 1
Views: 68

Not letting go is destroying me

Hi guys as I am sure you know I lost my cat Bertie ,almost two years ago ,and it’s been a hell Of a rollercoaster ride , I am no stranger too ,cat loss ,Bertie was one of many ,but his loss Has been the worst I have ever felt ,a grief so dark and painful ,it’s putting me off ever Getting any more ,c...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 12:51 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time to say goodbye
Replies: 37
Views: 6274

Re: Time to say goodbye

Hi I am so sorry ,too hear your post ,putting a beloved cat too sleep ,is a heartbreaking Choice you have to make ,but if it’s for the best ,sadly that’s the only option as for putting My Bertie too sleep ,at first ,I thought I had made a huge mistake ,but no almost two years on It was the right cho...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 12:38 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 147

Re: I am starting to feel depressed again

Thank you so much x
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:48 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 147

I am starting to feel depressed again

Hi all ,I have been posting on this website for a while now ,so I am sure your all familiar With my Bertie’s story ,. ? On November the 25 th will be Bertie’s 2nd anniversary ,it’s Been my toughest loss too date ,Bertie was only 7 years old ,and was my whole world , It’s been a rollercoaster of emot...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:23 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My Baby Buddy
Replies: 4
Views: 153

Re: My Baby Buddy

Hi I am sending my heartfelt sympathy and support ,losing a cat is devastating ,and anyone Who has lost a beloved cat ,understands your pain ,I have heard of cats going away too die , I myself have had cats not return home ,sadly no one ever knows why ? .your neighbour Seems a caring person I do hop...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Sep 29, 2019 7:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Cat Death (FLUTD) - my fault?
Replies: 4
Views: 179

Re: Cat Death (FLUTD) - my fault?

Hi first of all sorry about your loss ,and secondly you shouldn’t blame yourself or feel Guilty ,about what happened ,somethings are sadly out of our control ,my Bertie had Too be PTS ,after a freak accident ,that damaged his bladder and tail ,he was only 7 years Old ,I like yourself ,blamed myself ...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:16 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How do you support a grieving pet?
Replies: 8
Views: 224

Re: How do you support a grieving pet?

Hi sorry to hear about your loss ,I lost my cat Bertie back in November 2017 ,his loss Not only hit me hard ,but Bertie’s brother ( Basil ) too ,Basil was very clingy always Whated too be near me at all times ,and often seemed stressed at times ,the best thing I d Advice you too do is ,make a fuss o...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:04 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: He's gone
Replies: 14
Views: 262

Re: He's gone

So sorry for your loss ,yes I do believe ,that you dream about your cats ,and the dream
Is real I get a lot of comfort from them. X
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:01 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week
Replies: 8
Views: 236

Re: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week

Hi Tina yes you are right ,people are so cruel and evil ,most pets on the street can be avoided, by traffic ,it makes you wonder ,would they run over a child ? That short answer Is no ,sadly some people don’t see animals as living breathing creatures with feelings and A heartbeat, but I do ,when I l...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Aug 18, 2019 12:13 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week
Replies: 8
Views: 236

Re: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week

Hi Tina I ,sorry too hear about your loss ,yes I agree your neighbour was cruel and in the wrong, too treat your cat ,like a piece of rubbish ,it’s stressful enough losing a cat ,without That ,but trust me when I say ,there are many cruel people in this world , but also many Good people also ,like p...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Aug 17, 2019 11:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 5
Views: 213

Re: Still isn’t getting any easier

Hi polly thanks for your support ,and sorry too hear about your loss ,Bertie was only 7 years old,when I had to make that heartbreaking ( but right ) decision too put him too sleep , You see Bertie had a accident ,that did damage to his spine ,tail and bladder ,he was Blocked in the bladder ,the vet...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Jul 28, 2019 5:36 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I just cannot seem to accept my loss
Replies: 12
Views: 336

Re: I just cannot seem to accept my loss

Hi everyone thanks for your support , and my thoughts go out to Donna ,yes losing a cat Is very heartbreaking , and yes it’s important to find someone , who understands ,and Will ,support you through your ,loss , and there is tons of online support ,and information So yes we are not alone ,in this j...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jul 15, 2019 9:29 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 9
Views: 400

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Thank you all so much for your support and kind words I know you are all feeling the emotions and raw pain Of your own loss , and I am pleased there is so many Kind and understanding people , in the world , not Just cruel and mean people , who. Obviously should Know better then say horrible things ....
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jul 15, 2019 12:48 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I just cannot seem to accept my loss
Replies: 12
Views: 336

I just cannot seem to accept my loss

Hi everyone,I know you’re hurting too ,but I feel , I am heading for a nervous breakdown , No one seems to realise how much my darling Bertie , ment too me ,he was my sunshine My whole world my everything ,everyone ,keeps telling me and expecting me move on , Saying things like let him go ,get on wi...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jul 05, 2019 11:09 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Saying goodbye
Replies: 7
Views: 356

Re: Saying goodbye

Hi first of all sorry for your loss , cats become
Part of the family , and are involved in our everyday
Lives , so it’s no wonder why we miss them so much
I do hope the many happy memories will bring you
Some comfort

Hugs and kisses x
by Bertie 2017
Fri May 31, 2019 2:20 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 9
Views: 400

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Hi thanks jules , for kind words and support ,I haven’t been on this website for a while Because ,I have been seeing a cardiologist ,because I have angina ,caused by the stress Of losing my dear Bertie ,yes that’s what has become of this ,what I call a living nightmare Losing Bertie ,has damaged my ...
by Bertie 2017
Sat May 11, 2019 2:59 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 9
Views: 400

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Thank you both for your kind words and support ,yes I agree anger and bitterness ,isn’t a good thing ,but I feel grief is something you have no control over ,as for moving on ,it’s Easier said than done ,I am sure because ,of the love you have for your cats ,you understand The way I feel ,as I under...
by Bertie 2017
Sun May 05, 2019 11:24 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 9
Views: 400

Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Hi sorry to sound like a broken record ,but I am still feeling the pain of losing my dear Bertie It’s been over a year ,and still I am living with my grief ,I just what a as normal as possible Life , but I feel in limbo because ,of my feelings of anger and bitterness ,towards my Loss ,Bertie was tak...
by Bertie 2017
Sun May 05, 2019 11:12 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Losing Lucy
Replies: 3
Views: 203

Re: Losing Lucy

Hi so sorry about Lucy ,it did sound like ,she was sick ,and I think digging her a resting place Was lovely ,did she have a favourite spot in the garden ? ,I admire you for taking on a feral cat,because they are so misunderstood,and unloved by many ,I had a feral cat many years ago ,you give them th...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Apr 25, 2019 11:23 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 5
Views: 213

Re: Still isn’t getting any easier

Thanks you both for your kind words and support ,experience. Grief is like a nightmare you Cart seem ,too wake up from ,and it’s hard for some people to understand ,the love and Bond we shared ,with our cats ,still those people don’t matter ,and yes I have never thought Of ,it as crawling through it...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Apr 20, 2019 11:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 5
Views: 213

Still isn’t getting any easier

Just too ri mind you all ,I lost my dear Bertie ,in November 2017 ,and still I am fighting too . Let go ,but it’s so hard ,and very painful still ,Bertie was my sunshine ,he always made me Smile ,and very loving ,and was a real character ,life wasn’t dull ,I miss him so much ,I Feel I will never be ...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:38 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 705

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks Julia ,I am on a waiting list ,I decided to seek help, because my mood swings ,have Started too effect basil ,I noticed the other day ,he wasn’t himself ,he even stopped eating , So unlike him ,like his brother ,Basil loves his food ,it’s not fair on him ,I understand perfectly well ,cats rea...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Tragic death of my cat
Replies: 6
Views: 288

Re: Tragic death of my cat

Hi first of all ,I am so sorry to hear about your loss ,you shouldn’t blame yourself ,for not Noticing sooner ,I strongly believe ,cats go too ground ,with injuries ,and when scared , Back in 1996 ,I lost a cat ,from a dog attack ,I witnessed it ,and rushed him down to the vet , Even noticing that s...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:18 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 705

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks for your kind words and support ,I have decided too accept help ,not just for myself , But Bertie’s ,litter mate and brother basil ,I have discovered that basil is affected by my many mood swings , and depression ,I’d even say ,basil was off his food yesterday ,so unlike Him ,I tricked the do...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:03 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on
Replies: 22
Views: 3812

Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on

Hi ,yes losing cats ,is painful ,and the grief is so controlling ,It will destroy you ,if you let it , But as you have said ,we have something ,death and grief ,can never take away from us , Yes that’s the love and bond we share ,( and always will ) with our amazing beautiful Beloved cats ,not forge...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Mar 26, 2019 3:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 705

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks for your support and kind words ,i d like too say ,things are improving ,but sometimes I feel ,I am slipping back down ,you see with grief you get thoughts that go around in your mind,,that just won’t go away ,like did the vet ,give the right treatment ? ,silly I know , But too be fair ,I did...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Mar 13, 2019 12:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 705

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks everyone for your support ,it means a lot ,yes grief is usually something most of us , Are uncomfortable about ,when it comes to someone else ,but this is family we are talking about ,I recall after my mum died ,every one ,was so helpful and kind too me ,we support Each other ,but I feel when...