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by Bertie 2017
Fri May 31, 2019 2:20 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 8
Views: 190

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Hi thanks jules , for kind words and support ,I haven’t been on this website for a while Because ,I have been seeing a cardiologist ,because I have angina ,caused by the stress Of losing my dear Bertie ,yes that’s what has become of this ,what I call a living nightmare Losing Bertie ,has damaged my ...
by Bertie 2017
Sat May 11, 2019 2:59 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 8
Views: 190

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Thank you both for your kind words and support ,yes I agree anger and bitterness ,isn’t a good thing ,but I feel grief is something you have no control over ,as for moving on ,it’s Easier said than done ,I am sure because ,of the love you have for your cats ,you understand The way I feel ,as I under...
by Bertie 2017
Sun May 05, 2019 11:24 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 8
Views: 190

Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Hi sorry to sound like a broken record ,but I am still feeling the pain of losing my dear Bertie It’s been over a year ,and still I am living with my grief ,I just what a as normal as possible Life , but I feel in limbo because ,of my feelings of anger and bitterness ,towards my Loss ,Bertie was tak...
by Bertie 2017
Sun May 05, 2019 11:12 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Losing Lucy
Replies: 3
Views: 97

Re: Losing Lucy

Hi so sorry about Lucy ,it did sound like ,she was sick ,and I think digging her a resting place Was lovely ,did she have a favourite spot in the garden ? ,I admire you for taking on a feral cat,because they are so misunderstood,and unloved by many ,I had a feral cat many years ago ,you give them th...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Apr 25, 2019 11:23 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 3
Views: 106

Re: Still isn’t getting any easier

Thanks you both for your kind words and support ,experience. Grief is like a nightmare you Cart seem ,too wake up from ,and it’s hard for some people to understand ,the love and Bond we shared ,with our cats ,still those people don’t matter ,and yes I have never thought Of ,it as crawling through it...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Apr 20, 2019 11:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 3
Views: 106

Still isn’t getting any easier

Just too ri mind you all ,I lost my dear Bertie ,in November 2017 ,and still I am fighting too . Let go ,but it’s so hard ,and very painful still ,Bertie was my sunshine ,he always made me Smile ,and very loving ,and was a real character ,life wasn’t dull ,I miss him so much ,I Feel I will never be ...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:38 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks Julia ,I am on a waiting list ,I decided to seek help, because my mood swings ,have Started too effect basil ,I noticed the other day ,he wasn’t himself ,he even stopped eating , So unlike him ,like his brother ,Basil loves his food ,it’s not fair on him ,I understand perfectly well ,cats rea...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Tragic death of my cat
Replies: 6
Views: 137

Re: Tragic death of my cat

Hi first of all ,I am so sorry to hear about your loss ,you shouldn’t blame yourself ,for not Noticing sooner ,I strongly believe ,cats go too ground ,with injuries ,and when scared , Back in 1996 ,I lost a cat ,from a dog attack ,I witnessed it ,and rushed him down to the vet , Even noticing that s...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:18 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks for your kind words and support ,I have decided too accept help ,not just for myself , But Bertie’s ,litter mate and brother basil ,I have discovered that basil is affected by my many mood swings , and depression ,I’d even say ,basil was off his food yesterday ,so unlike Him ,I tricked the do...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:03 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on
Replies: 22
Views: 3367

Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on

Hi ,yes losing cats ,is painful ,and the grief is so controlling ,It will destroy you ,if you let it , But as you have said ,we have something ,death and grief ,can never take away from us , Yes that’s the love and bond we share ,( and always will ) with our amazing beautiful Beloved cats ,not forge...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Mar 26, 2019 3:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks for your support and kind words ,i d like too say ,things are improving ,but sometimes I feel ,I am slipping back down ,you see with grief you get thoughts that go around in your mind,,that just won’t go away ,like did the vet ,give the right treatment ? ,silly I know , But too be fair ,I did...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Mar 13, 2019 12:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Thanks everyone for your support ,it means a lot ,yes grief is usually something most of us , Are uncomfortable about ,when it comes to someone else ,but this is family we are talking about ,I recall after my mum died ,every one ,was so helpful and kind too me ,we support Each other ,but I feel when...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Feb 27, 2019 10:43 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time

Hi thanks for your support and kind words ,it’s times like this ,you know who too turn too , It’s sad to hear ,about that poor child ,it just goes to show ,how cruel life can be ,and my Heart goes out ,too the parents and family ,of this child , of course I class Bertie as my Child ,because I have h...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Feb 22, 2019 12:02 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

I cart forgive my family’s lack of support

Hi ,guys ,it’s been over ,a year now ,since I lost my darling Bertie ,it’s been the toughest Loss yet ,I have been through hell ,on earth ,losing Bertie ,has almost destroyed me ,so I am hurt that my family doesn’t care or understand ,Christmas 2017 was a hard one . Because Bertie ,hadn’t been ,gone...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Feb 18, 2019 12:45 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Hi jules ,good too hear from you ,yes it is early days ,it’s been well over a year ,since I last held ,Bertie ,I’d be laying if ,I said ,I didn’t get my bad days ,still but that’s all There are ,of course the longing to hold them and see them ,never ever gos away ,it just Gets ,less painful ,and not...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Feb 14, 2019 7:56 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Hi jules, good too hear from you again ,yes basil loves his new bed ,spends a lot of time Up there ,only comes down ,at feeding time ,typical cat lol ,in fact , I haven’t spotted him By the radiator ,for a while he’s usually glued to the thing lol ,I find seeing basil up there In a kind of healing w...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Feb 09, 2019 4:14 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Hi jules ,yes cats are masters ,at finding the best spots ,lol as for Bertie’s favourite spot , I have too accept ,that things change ,and life goes on ,and what is important ,that my Living cat basil ,is happy and contented ,I have learned that keeping Bertie’s bed empty Isn’t going too bring him b...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Feb 06, 2019 8:04 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Re: Maybe it’s time ,

Hi thanks for your message ,yes I believe Bertie has ,left. His favourite spot ,too Basil , I am starting to ,accept and get used too ,of course ,I did cry at first ,but the way I see it Now ,is that it’s not a cold and empty space ,anymore ,I d like too believe ,Bertie is up There ,with him, cuddli...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Feb 04, 2019 8:29 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
Replies: 23
Views: 553

Maybe it’s time ,

Hi everyone ,for all those who knows Bertie’s story ,understands how much he ment too me But ,Bertie had a favourite spot on top of my wardrobe ,he even had a bed up there , He loved it ,anyway back to my problem ,you see Bertie’s brother and litter mate ,Basil Has started use his brothers favourite...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Feb 04, 2019 8:02 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
Replies: 5
Views: 173

Re: My heart is still in a million pieces

Hi jules thanks as always ,for your kind words and support ,yes ,I believe Bertie would be Here ,if it wasn’t for the freak accident ,that caused me ,too have make that heartbreaking Decision ,too put him too sleep ,he was perfectly happy and normal as I cat could be , As you have said ,it’s harder ...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Feb 04, 2019 7:50 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Unexpectedly Lost My Cat
Replies: 4
Views: 121

Re: Unexpectedly Lost My Cat

Hi black cat lover 123 :my heart totally gos out ,too you ,I lost my cat Bertie before his time Please read my posts ,and I am honest with you ,it had hit me harder than ,any other loss , We all know ,our cats lifespan ,isn’t as long as ours , but losing them at any age is tough, But losing them ,su...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:08 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
Replies: 5
Views: 173

Re: My heart is still in a million pieces

Hi thank you both so much ,for your kind words and support ,yes sadly I have learned grief . Hasn’t got a time table ,and I feel because Bertie ,was only seven years old ,I feel very Cheated , and angry by it ,and yes you’re right ,the only cure ,for grief ,is grief ,I often Say it’s like being on a...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:15 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
Replies: 5
Views: 173

My heart is still in a million pieces

Hi ,I am now entering into my second year without my dear Bertie ,and too honest ,the first year ,didn’t effect me as much , as I expected it too,but now it’s hit me ,so hard ,the Reality ,that Bertie is never ever coming back ,of course I knew that ,but knowing that Is making me feel so angry ,I fe...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jan 18, 2019 7:52 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi Graham thanks for the kind words ,yes I agree with you ,it does get ,easier not better , Because I believe ,you live ,with this loss ,for the rest of your life ,but I wrote the post Back in November ,close too Bertie’s first anniversary and Xmas of course ,so my emotions were,all over the place ,...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Jan 03, 2019 10:45 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi Julia ,thanks for your kind and wish ,words ,I believe I posted my thoughts ,about going Back ,too square one ,when it was coming up ,too Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,and of course Christmas. Was coming up ,and as you know ,2018 ,had been a tough year ,so it’s no wonder ,my mood and emotions were ba...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Dec 31, 2018 3:09 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi Julia ,thanks for your message ,yes I ,had a quiet Christmas ,as well visited family on Boxing Day ,I felt that was long enough , for me ,after losing my Bertie ,I feel ,short trips Are the best ,so how’s things going now ? ,do you have plans for New Year’s Eve ? I see It as a fresh start ,puttin...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Dec 24, 2018 8:21 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi Julia ,thanks for your kind words ,that ,post ,wasn’t directed ,at you ,it’s just some one Yesterday ,really had ,a go at me ,I understand people are concerned ,about me ,but they Is no need ,too be a bully or rude ,anyway how’s things ? I know ,it isn’t easy for you at The moment ,have you decid...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Dec 24, 2018 12:29 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi ,it’s me again ,I have been reading the post again ,and I am not ,trying ,too grab all , The attention ,I am just like everyone else , suffering a lose of a beloved cat ,and if You ,read ,other people’s posts ,you will see ,I am trying too support other people,by doing so ,I am putting my own ,pa...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Dec 23, 2018 9:51 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Replies: 16
Views: 424

Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1

Hi sorry I feel after reading ,the post ,at the bottom ,I disagree with some of ,the things That ,have ,been said ,no I am not angry ,I just feel I need too ,nave my say ,I haven’t Touch a drop of drink ,over this last year ,and for ringing the blue cross. I haven’t rang Them as many times ,as you h...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:01 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I miss her so much it hurts
Replies: 10
Views: 184

Re: I miss her so much it hurts

Hi miss meg ,first of all ,I am so sorry for your loss ,and yes I know what you mean by people Who ,doesn’t understand ,over this last year ,I have had some very painful and hurtful Comments ,over my cat Bertie ,but all I can say ,is that you have people here who knows And understands ,how you are f...