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by Bertie 2017
Wed May 04, 2022 4:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I still haven’t excepted my loss
Replies: 1
Views: 1092

I still haven’t excepted my loss

Hi it’s been almost five years since I lost my dear Bertie ,he was only seven years old ,and Full of life ,right up to the end ,he was my whole world ,my everything ,and saying goodbye And letting go is so hard to do ,I feel like I am stuck in limbo ,I am desperate to feel normal Again .but it’s eas...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Oct 07, 2021 5:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Conner the one eyed cat.
Replies: 3
Views: 1358

Re: Conner the one eyed cat.

Hi first of all I am very sorry about your loss ,reading your story I can’t help thinking you , Are punishing yourself ,for conners passing ,it wasn’t your fault ,I believe things happen, That are sadly out of our control ,my Bertie who also had one eye ,was P TS ,after a accident, And yea Id blame ...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 07, 2021 9:02 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Buster my best friend
Replies: 4
Views: 1443

Re: Buster my best friend

Hi sorry for your loss ,and. Reply too your message , I understand that it was hard letting. Go ,even if ,it was the right decision ,it doesn’t make the loss easier ,I feel cats become , Such a huge part of our lives ,so naturally it comes as no surprise ,that they leave a huge Hole ,in our lives ,a...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Aug 30, 2021 9:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Meet Bertie
Replies: 2
Views: 1276

Re: Meet Bertie

Hi molly cat ,thanks for your reply ,and sorry it’s been a while ,I have been busy ,trying, Too focus on the positive things ,that Bertie brought into my life ,you see I have made , A playlist on my iPad ,just for my Bertie ,I feel music is perfect ,for expressing your feelings, And love ,anyway it’...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Aug 30, 2021 8:49 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Grief and regret
Replies: 5
Views: 1564

Re: Grief and regret

I thought I d add that having read FJM post I couldn’t agree more about what was written
It was said perfectly
by Bertie 2017
Mon Aug 30, 2021 8:44 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Grief and regret
Replies: 5
Views: 1564

Re: Grief and regret

Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,you give this lovely cat ,the best four years of his life ,I Perfectly understand your doubts ,over weather the vet was ,right ,after I lost my Bertie, I blamed the vets for a long time ,but believe me ,they tried for almost five weeks ,too Save him ,using much expens...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Aug 01, 2021 11:43 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Meet Bertie
Replies: 2
Views: 1276

Meet Bertie

Bertie was born in 2010 ,along with his brother Basil ,I adopted him ,from cats protection , As a four month old kitten , I knew he was special from the start ,he had only one. Eye , He lost the other ,too an act of cruelty ,or cowardice as I call it ,someone had hurt him , He had a strong fear of m...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Please don’t judge me
Replies: 1
Views: 443

Please don’t judge me

Hi I am sure ,many regulars on this website ,know my story ,I lost my Bertie four years ago , He was only seven ,that is something I am having trouble accepting ,I thought we had more time, together ,and Bertie was cruelly taken from me , I have experienced many cat losses, But this one is different...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:07 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Letting our dear Sophie go to sleep
Replies: 10
Views: 1014

Re: Letting our dear Sophie go to sleep

Hi so sorry for your loss ,, I believe cats tell you when it’s time , still it doesn’t ease our . Pain ,I like yourself have had many cats ,over the years ,each special in their own way , But like Sophie some ,stand out from the crowd , and are that ,extra special ,old young , The loss is just the s...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jul 19, 2021 9:41 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Sudden and traumatic loss of my 5 yr old baby
Replies: 3
Views: 557

Re: Sudden and traumatic loss of my 5 yr old baby

Hi midnuffy I am so sorry for your sudden and unexpected loss ,it must have hit you hard , But you mustn’t blame yourself ,what happened was totally out of your control ,and unexpected, and you are not alone ,every one on this website , will agree with me ,when I Say ,we have all been there ,and und...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Jul 03, 2021 12:41 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I didn’t get to say goodbye
Replies: 2
Views: 946

Re: I didn’t get to say goodbye

Hi Percy 2 ,you have every right to feel angry ,you have lost your best friend ,how true This is I don’t know ,but I have heard that cats often leave home ,when they are dyeing, And you shouldn’t blame yourself for not being there , this was something out of your hands, And your control ,and yes lif...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Jul 03, 2021 12:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 23
Views: 10526

Re: Overwhelming grief

Hi Tracy 1979; sorry I have been a while contacting you ,I understand depression perfectly, Having suffered it, since my teenage years ,and strongly believe our cats ,keep us going , And give us something ,people cart give ,unconditional love ,so it’s no wonder that cats , Are. Not only family , but...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Jul 03, 2021 12:03 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Heartbreaking beautiful poem
Replies: 4
Views: 1561

Re: Heartbreaking beautiful poem

That’s a beautiful poem mollycat ,yes we let them go because they are sick ,and cannot,
Get better , but knowing that ,doesn’t stop our hearts from breaking ,and the huge
Hole they leave behind ,

Xx
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jul 02, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Four years on I am in limbo
Replies: 4
Views: 796

Re: Four years on I am in limbo

Hi everyone thanks again for your support , It means a lot , it’s too soon too say , if I get Another cat , I still have Bertie’s brother From the same litter , so I am happy for the moment, Bertie wasn’t my first cat I lost young I lost my Four years old cat back in 1996 , so yes I have Been down t...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jul 02, 2021 6:49 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My beloved Sue
Replies: 7
Views: 767

Re: My beloved Sue

Hi just too say what a beautiful cat , sue is I say
Is because , even though they are gone they
Live on , in our heart and memories

Rip sue xx

So sorry for your loss

Xx
by Bertie 2017
Tue Jun 29, 2021 12:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My beloved Sue
Replies: 7
Views: 767

Re: My beloved Sue

Hi I have just read your message ,and I am so sorry for your up coming loss ,on Wednesday, I understand perfectly ,how much it’s hurting you ,but having sue put too sleep ,is sadly l Something that needs doing ,I have witnessed many cats being put 2 sleep ,and trust me ! If you mentioned it to the v...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Jun 27, 2021 12:29 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Devastated, completely heartbroken
Replies: 4
Views: 700

Re: Devastated, completely heartbroken

Hi Jamie ,I have just read your post ,sadly my opinion is that vets only care about the money, And as for the fact ,he was kept frozen ,shouldn’t have made a difference ,I decided too Pay for Bertie’s ashes ,which are kept in a cat sharpened casket , living in a rented house Means I am not allowed t...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Jun 23, 2021 11:13 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: All most four years on ,I am still grieving
Replies: 15
Views: 2197

Re: All most four years on ,I am still grieving

Hi everyone thanks for your help and support ,I understand why people have different opinions ,on the matters of losing a beloved pet ,thank you molly cat ,for your support , I can only imagine ,how hard it is losing a child ,and finding the strength to keep going , And my heart goes out to anyone w...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Jun 19, 2021 11:00 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Devastated, completely heartbroken
Replies: 4
Views: 700

Re: Devastated, completely heartbroken

Hi so sorry for your loss , it’s natural to have these thoughts when things happen suddenly , Now I am not saying ,something bad hadn’t happened ,because believe me ,some people , Can be cruel and unkind to animals , as for a post Mortum if you feel it will give you the Answers you seek ,then do it ...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Jun 19, 2021 10:42 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: All most four years on ,I am still grieving
Replies: 15
Views: 2197

Re: All most four years on ,I am still grieving

Hi thank you so much everyone who has been kind enough ,too help and support me ,it Means a lot ,I have been taking what you said into account ,sadly my thoughts over My family haven’t changed ,they are selfish people ,who only rings me when they what . Something ,I used too do volunteer work ,worke...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Jun 11, 2021 10:19 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: All most four years on ,I am still grieving
Replies: 15
Views: 2197

Re: All most four years on ,I am still grieving

Hi tortie adore thank you so much for your support and advice ,I agree with you ,getting Outside ,is a good idea ,I am sure you know that lockdown hasn’t helped ,being stuck at home , but still it was for our safety ,I haven’t missed my family at all ,from the day of . Bertie’s passing , they haven’...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jun 07, 2021 8:32 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: All most four years on ,I am still grieving
Replies: 15
Views: 2197

All most four years on ,I am still grieving

Hi I lost my seven year old cat ,Bertie on the 25 November 2017 ,and it has almost destroyed Me , I have never ever felt so much pain ,I miss him so much ,I feel it’s taking over my life , And have suffered depression , and have no interest other than video games and my cat , Bertie’s brother Basil ...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jun 07, 2021 8:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Hi; bouncing off a situation: kitten I raised supposed to be indoor yet hit by a car w/adoptive family
Replies: 9
Views: 929

Re: Hi; bouncing off a situation: kitten I raised supposed to be indoor yet hit by a car w/adoptive family

Hi first I am very sorry for your loss ,but sadly people have a mind of their own ,yes I Have always had outside cats ,but the place where I live is getting so busy ,houses popping Up everywhere ,and the roads mega busy ,I feel it isn’t safe anymore for my cat ,Basil , I know that may sound cruel ,b...
by Bertie 2017
Tue May 25, 2021 10:52 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Can't bring myself to accept Tobias is gone
Replies: 3
Views: 733

Re: Can't bring myself to accept Tobias is gone

Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,I understand perfectly well ,the bond we share ,with our cats , It’s a bond unlike any other , I’d even say our souls are one ,reading the first part of your story ,it sounds just like the days I used too spend with my dear Bertie ,precious memories . I will cherish f...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 05, 2021 5:55 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Four years on I am in limbo
Replies: 4
Views: 796

Re: Four years on I am in limbo

Thank you for your kind words and advice , going back too 2019 , I was seeing a breavment councillor , but sadly I only had six sessions , yes I understand that the N H s Has a waiting list as long as your arm and do an amazing job, but yes I felt I needed more , I was thinking of going Private afte...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Mar 26, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Four years on I am in limbo
Replies: 4
Views: 796

Four years on I am in limbo

This November will mark Bertie’s fourth anniversary ,all though the early days were hard , I feel I am ,improving: but I feel ,like I am under a dark cloud ,and a Bertie shaped hole, In my heart and home ,I miss him so much ,I feel I will never ever get over my loss ,or Put the feeling of anger and ...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Feb 14, 2021 12:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still cannot accept my loss
Replies: 3
Views: 740

Re: Still cannot accept my loss

Hi thank you so much for your support ,I feel everything you said ,is true ,I don’t know if. You know Bertie’s story ? . Bertie was a wonderful cat ,who lived life too the full ,not bad For only having one eye , at first I thought it would hold him back ,no Bertie was the most , Head strong ,stubbor...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Feb 02, 2021 9:08 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I Blame Myself
Replies: 3
Views: 841

Re: I Blame Myself

Hi first of all , I am sorry for your loss , she was And I’d beautiful . I am 48 this year . And have made a lot of mistakes , and what I have learned . Is sadly Some things are out of our hands , we cannot Tell the future . If we could , we would be able Too changed the outcome , I have posted on T...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 23, 2020 8:47 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still cannot accept my loss
Replies: 3
Views: 740

Still cannot accept my loss

Hi i am not new on this website ,you see I lost my cat Bertie ,just over 3 years ago, he was only seven years old ,and had so much more to live for ,I feel cheated ,and angry by my Loss ,and feel ,I cannot move on ,I am still feeling like I am living in limbo ,and each and every day ,is a battle ,I ...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 23, 2020 8:21 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Anger, denial and longing.
Replies: 6
Views: 977

Re: Anger, denial and longing.

Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,your cat ,sounds like he was suffering with bladder nerves Damage ,just like my Bertie ,except Bertie had a accident with the washing machine , Still the end of the story was the same ,I had my hopes raised only too ,end in heart break , And yes I blamed the vet ,ques...