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by Bertie 2017
Mon Apr 05, 2021 5:55 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Four years on I am in limbo
Replies: 2
Views: 69

Re: Four years on I am in limbo

Thank you for your kind words and advice , going back too 2019 , I was seeing a breavment councillor , but sadly I only had six sessions , yes I understand that the N H s Has a waiting list as long as your arm and do an amazing job, but yes I felt I needed more , I was thinking of going Private afte...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Mar 26, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Four years on I am in limbo
Replies: 2
Views: 69

Four years on I am in limbo

This November will mark Bertie’s fourth anniversary ,all though the early days were hard , I feel I am ,improving: but I feel ,like I am under a dark cloud ,and a Bertie shaped hole, In my heart and home ,I miss him so much ,I feel I will never ever get over my loss ,or Put the feeling of anger and ...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Feb 14, 2021 12:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still cannot accept my loss
Replies: 3
Views: 227

Re: Still cannot accept my loss

Hi thank you so much for your support ,I feel everything you said ,is true ,I don’t know if. You know Bertie’s story ? . Bertie was a wonderful cat ,who lived life too the full ,not bad For only having one eye , at first I thought it would hold him back ,no Bertie was the most , Head strong ,stubbor...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Feb 02, 2021 9:08 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I Blame Myself
Replies: 3
Views: 179

Re: I Blame Myself

Hi first of all , I am sorry for your loss , she was And I’d beautiful . I am 48 this year . And have made a lot of mistakes , and what I have learned . Is sadly Some things are out of our hands , we cannot Tell the future . If we could , we would be able Too changed the outcome , I have posted on T...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 23, 2020 8:47 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still cannot accept my loss
Replies: 3
Views: 227

Still cannot accept my loss

Hi i am not new on this website ,you see I lost my cat Bertie ,just over 3 years ago, he was only seven years old ,and had so much more to live for ,I feel cheated ,and angry by my Loss ,and feel ,I cannot move on ,I am still feeling like I am living in limbo ,and each and every day ,is a battle ,I ...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 23, 2020 8:21 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Anger, denial and longing.
Replies: 6
Views: 201

Re: Anger, denial and longing.

Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,your cat ,sounds like he was suffering with bladder nerves Damage ,just like my Bertie ,except Bertie had a accident with the washing machine , Still the end of the story was the same ,I had my hopes raised only too ,end in heart break , And yes I blamed the vet ,ques...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 23, 2020 7:53 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My Gorgeous is gone
Replies: 13
Views: 331

Re: My Gorgeous is gone

Hi so sorry for your loss ,sometimes ,we never fully understand ,the reason why things happen ,but naturally ,we always need answers ,sadly we may never ever know ,why , All I know and understand ,it that losing a cat ,is heartbreaking ,especially if that cat , Wasn’t very old , whatever was wrong w...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Dec 07, 2020 8:38 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: No one understands
Replies: 4
Views: 151

Re: No one understands

Hi I totally understand what you’re saying and Feeling , you see I lost my Bertie just over 3years ago , And often I feel the pain and sorrow is just the same . I thought time was a great healer . Yes things do improve You manage each day as it comes , and get through it the best way you can , becau...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Aug 20, 2020 9:02 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Did we make the right decision.
Replies: 7
Views: 281

Re: Did we make the right decision.

Hi first of all sorry about your loss ,I think it’s human nature,too second guess ourselves, After we have made the decision ,too let our furry friend go ,after I had Bertie ,p t s , I couldn’t get the thought out of my head ,had I made the right decision ,should I have , Fought a little longer ? ,(...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Aug 18, 2020 7:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: No one else gets it
Replies: 3
Views: 238

Re: No one else gets it

Hi yes I do get it ,after I lost my Bertie ,in November 2017 ,I discovered ,that understanding And sympathy ,Thin on the ground b,Xmas 2017 was hell ,I had a total meltdown right in Front of the people I thought knew and cared ,I am talking about my family and friends , I was accused of spoiling Xma...
by Bertie 2017
Fri May 08, 2020 11:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Help me overcome a loss
Replies: 4
Views: 386

Re: Help me overcome a loss

Hi just read your strory I am so sorry to hear about your loss ,sadly accidents happen , I lost my darling Bertie ,almost 3 years ago ,due too a freak accident ,if you don’t know , I will tell you ,he got trapped as I was closing the washing machine door ,it damaged His spine and bladder ,we tried a...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jan 27, 2020 11:12 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Will I ever let go . ?
Replies: 3
Views: 330

Will I ever let go . ?

Hi friends ,for those of you that knows ,I lost my dear Bertie ,just over two years ago , And it still seems ,I am feeling the pain of his loss ,I think about him 24/ 7 ,and wish so Bad he was still here ,I watched a video of him today ,usually I don’t have any issues With looking at pictures of him...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jan 27, 2020 10:37 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10868

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Hi sadly I have heard far too often ,people blaming themselves ,for the loss of their Beloved cat , the truth is however we lost our beloved cat ,it isn’t in our ‘hands the fate Of our pets ,I suppose human nature ,makes us think that way ,but sadly some things Are totally out ,of our control, trust...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Dec 08, 2019 4:26 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: my cat died today, it was my fault
Replies: 35
Views: 10868

Re: my cat died today, it was my fault

Hi sorry for your loss , I have read your story And trust me , it wasn’t your flaunt , often We live a busy life , where everything goes Wrong , a chain of events , that sadly ended Badly sadly we cannot see the future , if We could , we would be fair warded But often we do blame ourselves for Somet...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Dec 01, 2019 5:23 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My Baby Buddy
Replies: 5
Views: 613

Re: My Baby Buddy

Hi first of all sorry for your loss , it’s hard enough Losing a beloved cat , let alone not finding out Why ? . I have learned through my own loss There is more questions than answers , all these Thoughts and feelings , can make you feel crazy Grief is cruel and heartless , and in life we May never ...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Nov 21, 2019 10:36 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 528

Re: I am starting to feel depressed again

Thank you all so much ,for your kind words and support ,I am blessed to have Bertie’s Litter mate ,Basil ,too help me pick up the pieces ,but I feel in my heart ,I cannot ever Love another cat again ( except basil of course ) I am a crazy cat lady ,in my forties , Who has cats in the family ,since I...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 1:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Not letting go is destroying me
Replies: 1
Views: 303

Not letting go is destroying me

Hi guys as I am sure you know I lost my cat Bertie ,almost two years ago ,and it’s been a hell Of a rollercoaster ride , I am no stranger too ,cat loss ,Bertie was one of many ,but his loss Has been the worst I have ever felt ,a grief so dark and painful ,it’s putting me off ever Getting any more ,c...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 12:51 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time to say goodbye
Replies: 37
Views: 7847

Re: Time to say goodbye

Hi I am so sorry ,too hear your post ,putting a beloved cat too sleep ,is a heartbreaking Choice you have to make ,but if it’s for the best ,sadly that’s the only option as for putting My Bertie too sleep ,at first ,I thought I had made a huge mistake ,but no almost two years on It was the right cho...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 15, 2019 12:38 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 528

Re: I am starting to feel depressed again

Thank you so much x
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:48 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I am starting to feel depressed again
Replies: 5
Views: 528

I am starting to feel depressed again

Hi all ,I have been posting on this website for a while now ,so I am sure your all familiar With my Bertie’s story ,. ? On November the 25 th will be Bertie’s 2nd anniversary ,it’s Been my toughest loss too date ,Bertie was only 7 years old ,and was my whole world , It’s been a rollercoaster of emot...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:23 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My Baby Buddy
Replies: 5
Views: 613

Re: My Baby Buddy

Hi I am sending my heartfelt sympathy and support ,losing a cat is devastating ,and anyone Who has lost a beloved cat ,understands your pain ,I have heard of cats going away too die , I myself have had cats not return home ,sadly no one ever knows why ? .your neighbour Seems a caring person I do hop...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Sep 29, 2019 7:07 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Cat Death (FLUTD) - my fault?
Replies: 7
Views: 1291

Re: Cat Death (FLUTD) - my fault?

Hi first of all sorry about your loss ,and secondly you shouldn’t blame yourself or feel Guilty ,about what happened ,somethings are sadly out of our control ,my Bertie had Too be PTS ,after a freak accident ,that damaged his bladder and tail ,he was only 7 years Old ,I like yourself ,blamed myself ...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:16 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How do you support a grieving pet?
Replies: 8
Views: 720

Re: How do you support a grieving pet?

Hi sorry to hear about your loss ,I lost my cat Bertie back in November 2017 ,his loss Not only hit me hard ,but Bertie’s brother ( Basil ) too ,Basil was very clingy always Whated too be near me at all times ,and often seemed stressed at times ,the best thing I d Advice you too do is ,make a fuss o...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:04 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: He's gone
Replies: 14
Views: 801

Re: He's gone

So sorry for your loss ,yes I do believe ,that you dream about your cats ,and the dream
Is real I get a lot of comfort from them. X
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 03, 2019 11:01 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week
Replies: 8
Views: 702

Re: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week

Hi Tina yes you are right ,people are so cruel and evil ,most pets on the street can be avoided, by traffic ,it makes you wonder ,would they run over a child ? That short answer Is no ,sadly some people don’t see animals as living breathing creatures with feelings and A heartbeat, but I do ,when I l...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Aug 18, 2019 12:13 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week
Replies: 8
Views: 702

Re: My gorgeous little cat was run over last week

Hi Tina I ,sorry too hear about your loss ,yes I agree your neighbour was cruel and in the wrong, too treat your cat ,like a piece of rubbish ,it’s stressful enough losing a cat ,without That ,but trust me when I say ,there are many cruel people in this world , but also many Good people also ,like p...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Aug 17, 2019 11:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
Replies: 5
Views: 584

Re: Still isn’t getting any easier

Hi polly thanks for your support ,and sorry too hear about your loss ,Bertie was only 7 years old,when I had to make that heartbreaking ( but right ) decision too put him too sleep , You see Bertie had a accident ,that did damage to his spine ,tail and bladder ,he was Blocked in the bladder ,the vet...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Jul 28, 2019 5:36 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I just cannot seem to accept my loss
Replies: 12
Views: 869

Re: I just cannot seem to accept my loss

Hi everyone thanks for your support , and my thoughts go out to Donna ,yes losing a cat Is very heartbreaking , and yes it’s important to find someone , who understands ,and Will ,support you through your ,loss , and there is tons of online support ,and information So yes we are not alone ,in this j...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jul 15, 2019 9:29 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?
Replies: 9
Views: 1077

Re: Why is life so cruel and unfair ?

Thank you all so much for your support and kind words I know you are all feeling the emotions and raw pain Of your own loss , and I am pleased there is so many Kind and understanding people , in the world , not Just cruel and mean people , who. Obviously should Know better then say horrible things ....
by Bertie 2017
Mon Jul 15, 2019 12:48 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I just cannot seem to accept my loss
Replies: 12
Views: 869

I just cannot seem to accept my loss

Hi everyone,I know you’re hurting too ,but I feel , I am heading for a nervous breakdown , No one seems to realise how much my darling Bertie , ment too me ,he was my sunshine My whole world my everything ,everyone ,keeps telling me and expecting me move on , Saying things like let him go ,get on wi...