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by Nicky brown
Wed Apr 03, 2019 1:31 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Tragic death of my cat
Replies: 6
Views: 216

Re: Tragic death of my cat

Hi I am so sorry to hear your sad news and can completely understand aspects of your grief. I lost my 11 month old kitten Toulouse in 2016. We were so careful to keep him in at night but this warm spring night with baby rabbits around he was having none of it. When we found him next day it was too l...
by Nicky brown
Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:03 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: In dire need of advice about cat not using the litter box
Replies: 6
Views: 175

Re: In dire need of advice about cat not using the litter box

Hi Just read your post but realise it is a couple of weeks later now - sorry. My wee boy Hendrick, who sadly was fatally injured in October, was the same. We got him at 8 weeks or so and were told he was house trained and right enough, he used the litter tray immediately but then things changed for ...
by Nicky brown
Thu Dec 13, 2018 7:54 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
Replies: 13
Views: 360

Re: Im absolutely heart broken

Thank you Julie and Bertie for your thoughtful words. I've stopped counting which week I am on which must be a good sign but I haven't written Christmas cards - normal for many but not someone who usually has them written and posted by Nov 30th. I am a few weeks behind with the whole Christmas jovia...
by Nicky brown
Sun Dec 02, 2018 9:28 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 205

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Sounds like a lovely dream. I am finding the whole Christmas thing hard just 6 weeks since tragedy. I usually love Christmas but this year it feels so melancholy. Funny but I've lost many cats over the years in all different circumstances but my last two losses have hit me so so hard. I thought you ...
by Nicky brown
Tue Nov 27, 2018 4:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Some thoughts on letting go.
Replies: 27
Views: 582

Re: Some thoughts on letting go.

Hi Just read your recent posts. She is a beautiful girl. What a horrible decision for you. We had to make that decision 5 weeks ago after quite different circumstances with a very young cat. All I have done every day since is question my decision. It definitely wasn't the right decision but it defin...
by Nicky brown
Tue Nov 20, 2018 12:44 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Sad update SCC/my baby is gone - Dilemma - 20yr old cat with dental problems
Replies: 23
Views: 587

Re: Sad update SCC/my baby is gone - Dilemma - 20yr old cat with dental problems

Hi Just read your post. Really sad. I lost my baby 4 weeks ago - completely different circumstances but like you we were given a choice of putting him to sleep, which wasn't a choice at all. In your case, a known tumour and in ours paralysis of his back kegs and tail. It was horrible and whilst I kn...
by Nicky brown
Tue Nov 20, 2018 12:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Nothing seems to help
Replies: 2
Views: 143

Re: Nothing seems to help

Hi Poor you - I understand. It's not that we think any less of the cats we still have, it's just that sometimes you have a special extra bond - could be to do with personalities or age or circumstances or just a special moment shared together. I've been getting annoyed with my other two as all they ...
by Nicky brown
Sat Nov 17, 2018 11:00 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Moomoo RIP.
Replies: 4
Views: 156

Re: Moomoo RIP.

Hi Sorry to hear about your tortie. I have a tortie girl Truffle, who is 5 though acts more like 45. She loves to sleep but she has her tortitude too and when you see those big eyes, you know something is up. The other evening Hobbs ( my black 15 yr old male) was outside on the window sill. Truffle ...
by Nicky brown
Sun Nov 11, 2018 7:55 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 205

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Hi again Do you have anyone sharing your grief with you? I am lucky in that regard as my husband misses Hendrick terribly too. That said, it can be hard watching others suffer as well as you. Hendrick was the first cat I have physically instructed to be PTS at the vets. My husband took our cats Tabi...
by Nicky brown
Sat Nov 10, 2018 9:18 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
Replies: 13
Views: 360

Re: Im absolutely heart broken

Hi 2 weeks for you and 3 for me - I know exactly how you are feeling. I moved Hendrick's bowls at the time but his litter tray is still sitting there - that seems more final as the dishes were often removed and put in the dish washer. My older cat (15) has taken to sleeping in Hendrick's (age 2 1/ 2...
by Nicky brown
Fri Nov 09, 2018 10:09 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 205

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Hi again Well I don't really believe in unexplained things but I dabble when I need to. I bought myself two crystals when Hendrick died. I can't remember the names though I chose them for their properties and colour - ginger like Hendy. On Thursday one fell out of my pocket and I lost it. I then had...
by Nicky brown
Sun Nov 04, 2018 11:19 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
Replies: 7
Views: 212

Re: 12 days in and still tormented

Thank you bobby's girl. My Hendrick hurt his leg too when he was less than a year old. He knocked over a large, glass goldfish bowl (the goldfish had passed away a few days earlier and the bowl was empty) . I think he must of climbed into the bowl and it dropped from a height and smashed on a tile f...
by Nicky brown
Thu Nov 01, 2018 6:25 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
Replies: 7
Views: 212

Re: 12 days in and still tormented

Hi folks Thank you once again for taking the time to reply. Not having a good evening - looking back through all my photos from when he was a little kitten, all his antics and cuddles. Tonight pulling in to the drive a squirrel jumped over the dyke, ran right across the road and over the dyke at the...
by Nicky brown
Wed Oct 31, 2018 8:49 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
Replies: 7
Views: 212

12 days in and still tormented

It is now 12 days since we made the horrendous decision to put our little two and half year old to sleep. In that time I have relived his last hours again and again trying to rationalise his injury and the outcome then wham bam one of today's top news stories on TV is a possible cure for spinal para...
by Nicky brown
Mon Oct 29, 2018 10:17 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Anyone ever find blood in faeces?
Replies: 21
Views: 480

Re: Anyone ever find blood in faeces?

Hi I've not noticed it in poo - probably because my older cat has always been a mainly outdoor cat but Hobbs has come down with urinary tract infections on atleast 2 occasions in the past 15 years. Both times he started peeing in our shower( nice!) He was obviously caught short but there was blood e...
by Nicky brown
Sat Oct 27, 2018 11:15 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
Replies: 13
Views: 360

Re: Im absolutely heart broken

Hi That's really sad. I am shocked about how many cat illnesses I have read about on-line as I have always been relatively lucky with good health in young cats - about the only thing I have been lucky with regarding my cats. It is strange - for want of a better word, that Jack took ill so soon after...
by Nicky brown
Thu Oct 25, 2018 10:11 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

Hi Andy Thank you for picking up on the loss of Hendrick. It's a week tomorrow (Friday) some week. I have been on holiday as in off work but not away - my holiday had started before it happened. This will be the worst holiday of my entire life. Tuesday was bad - me and my hot water bottle and blanke...
by Nicky brown
Sun Oct 21, 2018 4:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

Many thanks. I will look at this tomorrow when I am home alone.
by Nicky brown
Sun Oct 21, 2018 4:19 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

How do you add a picture. I would like to add a picture of Hendrick.
Thanks
by Nicky brown
Sun Oct 21, 2018 4:09 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Need support..I adore beloved Gandhi..BUT.
Replies: 19
Views: 899

Re: Need support..I adore beloved Gandhi..BUT.

Hi I am new to this site and am sadly on because I lost my 21/2 yr old ginger boy Hendrick on Friday after he was badly injured by a car and we had the agonising decision of whether to put him to sleep or not. It's been a hell of a weekend but I've had comfort from kind thoughts by people on the sit...
by Nicky brown
Sun Oct 21, 2018 1:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

Thank you for your thoughts and sorry to learn of your loss this year with with Emily. We had to have our cat Jasmine put to sleep 5 years ago after illness. She now sleeps under a Jasmine in the woodland at the back of the house. She took really ill suddenly 8 months earlier. We were on holiday in ...
by Nicky brown
Sun Oct 21, 2018 8:50 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

Thank you for your reply. I slept last night but woke early and have been thinking about him ever since - partly relieving Friday night and partly just imagining him with me. We live beside the road and every time I hear a car, I think of him. We always tried to keep him in at night - occasionally w...
by Nicky brown
Sat Oct 20, 2018 6:30 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 226

losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

Yesterday my gorgeously handsome two and a half year old ginger boy Hendrick asked out after his dinner but instead of choosing the surrounding fields and hills must have chosen to cross the road. My husband left about 5.15 to pick up our daughter from uni for the weekend and just a short time later...
by Nicky brown
Sat Oct 20, 2018 4:59 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Replies: 5
Views: 171

Re: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up

Hi I read your story of Bertie and can imagine how awful that was for you. I had to say goodbye to my gorgeous 2 year old Hendrick last night after he was struck by a car - he survived but had a life changing injury similar to Bertie's that we decided he couldn't live with. I am raw. However, with r...
by Nicky brown
Sat Oct 20, 2018 4:40 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic
Replies: 29
Views: 8373

Re: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic

Hi Matt Don't know if you will be reading this all these months on. Hope your two are still doing great. I lost my 11 month old Toulouse in April 16 - he was one of my cat Truffle's 5 kittens ( the other 4 went to friends and colleagues who still have and love them). I struggled so hard with the los...