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by Michellewel1
Mon Nov 30, 2020 9:58 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Re: Struggling with guilt and grief

Thank you Caroline, it just all takes time doesnt it? Then we can hopefully find peace with what happened. I've found myself going through.paperwork and conversations I had with the vet over and over. The kids are OK, my son was upset the first night but has been OK after this, but I dont think they...
by Michellewel1
Mon Nov 30, 2020 5:39 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: No one understands
Replies: 4
Views: 71

Re: No one understands

Thank you so much. You are right, its just so raw at the moment. I had a phonecall from the vets today to say she was back, so I'll scatter some of her ashes out the back garden and keep some in the house. I keep hoping ill hear her jumping on the bed, even looked up cat ghosts last night while the ...
by Michellewel1
Mon Nov 30, 2020 5:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Re: Struggling with guilt and grief

Thank you, sorry for your loss, the stomach wrenching was the perfect way to describe the horrible feeling. The wishing you could change something in the past, and I've even been pretending the vet took her home with him instead of putting her to sleep. I got a phonecall today to say her body was ba...
by Michellewel1
Mon Nov 30, 2020 9:29 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: No one understands
Replies: 4
Views: 71

No one understands

I posted just over ago when we put our cat Ruby to sleep. I just feel like no one understands. Im still so heartbroken. I have 2 young children, one is a toddler 20 months, and I feel like I dont get a minute to grieve. Ruby was my shadow, she would lie under my sun lounger, lie next to me in bed, f...
by Michellewel1
Mon Nov 30, 2020 9:10 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Re: Struggling with guilt and grief

I just came on to post another separate comment and saw these lovely comments. Thank you so much, your words have eased my guilt a bit and I'm so sorry for your own losses, no one else understands except fellow cat adorers x
by Michellewel1
Fri Nov 20, 2020 10:29 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Re: Struggling with guilt and grief

Oh my goodness thank you for your kind words, they have meant so much to me. I think its just so comforting to understand others have gone through this and understand how incredibly painful it is. I didn't quite realise the intense pain and guilt I would have felt. To not have her wee presence about...
by Michellewel1
Fri Nov 20, 2020 8:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Re: Struggling with guilt and grief

Thank you so much for reading my post and responding. Yes I agree with you but its just the unknown elements, what if she had been fine with medication, I just feel like I never gave her a chance and its killing me. I know these feelings will ease, but the regret will always be here.
by Michellewel1
Fri Nov 20, 2020 4:54 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Struggling with guilt and grief
Replies: 15
Views: 188

Struggling with guilt and grief

Im writing this in the middle of the night as I cant sleep. We put our Ruby to sleep on Wednesday morning. She took unwell last week, not breathing right. She stayed overnight on Friday into Saturday, suspected heart disease. She was sent home with medication the following day and seemed brighter. T...