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by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jul 02, 2016 10:44 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

Re: young cat CKD:guilt

Forgive me for 'emotional unloading' at a time when so many of you have your own heartaches, but it helps I can come to this forum and express my feelings in private. I have related the sad story of the totally unexpected and devastating demise of our much loved cats Cody and Armand within 4 weeks o...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 18, 2016 9:55 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Any advice as to when I should have her pts?
Replies: 5
Views: 2572

Re: Any advice as to when I should have her pts?

Oh Kris, what an awful dilemma. I'm sorry I don't have the 'answer' to your heart-breaking problem, but can only tell you about 8yr old Cody and pray it helps. As you are aware, she became very ill from renal disease very rapidly, even after re-hydration, which raised our hopes but only worked for 2...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jun 17, 2016 10:41 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Kris, your e-mail address is not 'on view' anywhere. It just says on your profile 'send e-mail to Kris35' no address given.
by issiandarchie+68
Thu Jun 16, 2016 1:27 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

What a lovely post, thank you Kris. Yes, I do know what you mean about relapses. We live in a large Victorian tenement flat, all doors leading onto big hallway so you can see in to kitchen across hall from living room for instance, and the other night,I was sitting quietly, watching tv not thinking ...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 15, 2016 10:20 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Kylie 11/7/16
Replies: 109
Views: 21779

Re: Kylie in forher ultrasound and paw check tomorrow

Thinking of you and your wee pet today Mark, It's horrible when they are sick, you feel helpless don't you and just want to take the pain away from them. All fingers and toes crossed, virtual positive vibes heading your way.

Issi
xx
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 15, 2016 10:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Hi all you lovely, supportive people, I've just popped on to say that yesterday was the first day since 31st March I did not shed a tear and today was the first morning I awoke after a good night's sleep without a churning stomach. I can't properly express my gratitude for all your reassurances in m...
by issiandarchie+68
Sun Jun 12, 2016 9:48 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13059

Re: The hurt is unbearable

I don't think that's morbid at all Wanda, the closeness to your beloved pet's ashes comforts you and who knows how any of us will feel another day? I once watched a programme in which a young woman had the ashes of all her deceased pets over the years, sewn into little pillows, which she kept on the...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 11, 2016 10:40 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Crewella, I am feeling better now, sleeping, still get 'the churns' but not as bad. I had an unexpected weep when I was telling Shaz about the cremations. Oh how I miss them, the house is so quiet, my husband is lovely, a busy man but a dour Scot, doesn't chat. We still have our much loved...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 11, 2016 10:11 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13059

Re: The hurt is unbearable

Hi Shaz, I can understand the dilemma you and your hubby find yourselves in with Miley's ashes, your concerns are perfectly valid. Armand and Cody hated being alone and so (seems silly, I know) we asked for a ' joint cremation' with other pets, although each time wrapped in their favourite individua...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 08, 2016 2:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13059

Re: The hurt is unbearable

'It's so unfair.. I just want my baby back'. I feel for you. Even now I wake and rage against the injustice of it all, I long for my pets to return. My husband said 'you are not God, you don't get to decide'. It will hurt for quite a while I'm afraid. My sweet Armand followed me everywhere. I still ...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue Jun 07, 2016 2:19 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Vivian, thought I would let you know I still wake with the 'churns' but have stopped taking the diazepam, now get up and get on with life, but last night was dreadful. Just before I fell asleep, I had a clear vision of my beloved Cody on her last morning as if it happened yesterday (it was 29th A...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue Jun 07, 2016 2:08 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13059

Re: The hurt is unbearable

Hi Shaz, I read your post with a pain in my heart for you. I had exactly the same reaction to the 'empty places' when my wee black cat Armand, died unexpectedly on a routine visit to the vets and exactly a month later, our beautiful silver and white tabby, Cody died from renal failure. The pain is i...
by issiandarchie+68
Thu Jun 02, 2016 12:34 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Vivian, I tried a short course of Diazepam but I still woke up 4hrs later, so knowing this is 'normal' has helped me. My beloved big (he's the size of a small dog!)grey cat Gandhi, is gently biting my hand to get me off the 'mouse' and draping his body over the desk, and takes all the lovi...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 01, 2016 10:34 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Kris, I was actually thinking about you yesterday and wondering how you were getting along, when up pops your post! Thank you for sharing the story of your friend, it helped to know I'm not alone. My sister 'phoned (she's in Yorkshire, I live in Glasgow) and told me she has suffered the exact sam...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 2:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

It's worth a thought Kay, my cat sitter works for Cats Protection and I have worked in the C P charity shop and seen the older cats featured for adoption. I'll give it a week or two though, before asking them for advice/recommendations. I'm exhausted and emotional just now, not a good time to make a...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 12:18 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Sue. If it happens tonight, I will try that. I did think about getting another cat, but at 68 (me) and 70 (hubby) it's not really feasible. Gandhi is a big cat with a big personality. We were very lucky that Cody chose us, she climbed up my hubby's trouser leg at the sanctuary, he lifted h...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 8:57 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 14156

Night time terrors

Some weeks ago I posted on this forum about the unexpected deaths of my beloved cats, Cody and Armand who sadly died within a month of each other. I was overwhelmed with grief, sank into depression and had to seek help from my GP. She gave me a short course of sleeping tablets which helped me fall a...
by issiandarchie+68
Sun May 22, 2016 9:08 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Traumatic and sudden loss.
Replies: 10
Views: 2355

Re: Traumatic and sudden loss.

I am thinking of you and your boy today Safjas. Sending virtual hugs. Don't hesitate to post your feelings on this forum, it does help. x
by issiandarchie+68
Sat May 21, 2016 12:43 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Traumatic and sudden loss.
Replies: 10
Views: 2355

Re: Traumatic and sudden loss.

On 31st March I took my beloved little black cat Armand, aged 11yrs,(we rescued him at 5yrs old) to our vet for his 'booster'. Mentioned a cough. My boy never came home, he died under sedation for his x ray which showed a tumour filling his little chest, pressing on his heart and a lung full of flui...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 16, 2016 9:41 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 14
Views: 5138

Re: Overwhelming grief

I used Blue Cross in the very early days and found them very helpful. Yes, I totally understand that the grief takes you in waves - one minute you are OK and then it hits you so hard you are back to where to where you started. I guess that is what grief does to you. Did I suffer depression - well I...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri May 13, 2016 2:00 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

Re: young cat CKD

Thank you so much for bravely posting your sad story. Anastasia (what a wonderful name) was a very lucky cat having you in her life. I think it's shameful that your Vet showed you and your beloved pet such disrespect and I am forever grateful that both Armand and Cody ended their lives in the care o...
by issiandarchie+68
Thu May 12, 2016 9:58 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

Re: young cat CKD

Just thought I would let you lovely people know that we have decided against adopting any more cats. It saddens me but we are both oaps and Gandhi, my remaining cat, although very loving, is large in body as well as personality. We were very very fortunate with Cody in that she treated him with disd...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed May 04, 2016 9:33 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Overwhelming grief
Replies: 14
Views: 5138

Re: Overwhelming grief

On March 31st I took my little black cat Armand, to the vets for a routine visit and mentioned he was coughing badly. I wasn't worried, he had been very ill when we took him in 5yrs previously and was always a little wheezy. He died at the vets. A tumour in his tiny chest and lungs filling up with f...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue May 03, 2016 3:43 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

Re: young cat CKD

Thank you my love, what a wonderful, comforting thing to say. We took bruiser Gandhi in because he had been used as a football, had a ruptured bowel, but being such a large cat, it was difficult finding him a home. We didn't think we would cope but he is marvellous although has to take a dose of lac...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue May 03, 2016 8:22 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

Re: young cat CKD

Thank you guys for taking the time to comfort me. I called it CKD but to be honest, I don't remember my vet giving it a 'name'. When we took her in for her kidneys to be flushed, he talked about 'spikes' and things being far too high and he wanted to see them reduced by at least half. I didn't take ...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 02, 2016 11:05 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 2985

young cat CKD

Can anyone help me with this query? Exactly a week after one of my cats died unexpectedly at the Vets (tumour and fluid in lungs), my 8yr female cat, Cody, who had previously been full of life, started to lose weight. She was given antibiotics and a later blood test diagnosed kidney problems. Follow...