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by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jul 13, 2016 12:01 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How to Handle the loss please?
Replies: 36
Views: 9131

Re: How to Handle the loss please?

[quote="Tina"]yes a new cat can be a plaster but it can also be a blessing in disguise. I bet hed soon say I like it its cute you cant help it personality shines through. maybe one day. I had to smile at that Tina. :) My hubby is a hard working, wonderfully kind man BUT a typically dour Scot. He has...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon Jul 11, 2016 11:14 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

I thought I would share my feelings with all you lovely, supportive people. You were wonderful when I was in the depths of despair, uplifting, comforting and understanding. Well, surprisingly, our beloved Gandhi (the Velcro kid) is thriving as an only cat, but he is getting on in years so perhaps he...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jul 09, 2016 10:54 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: diaorrhea in fur
Replies: 13
Views: 1975

Re: diaorrhea in fur

I can sympathise with Miuccia, I get nervous when visiting the Vet and it's not me he's examining! Although I hasten to add, I have yet to mess up the bottom of my carrier! Thank goodness for Tena Lady. :) My Gandhi has megacolon. I was told by original Vet on diagnosis, that after 'washout' he woul...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jul 08, 2016 2:20 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How to Handle the loss please?
Replies: 36
Views: 9131

Re: How to Handle the loss please?

I know what you mean Shaz, it's a lovely feeling preparing for a new cat. I do miss that. I think my husband is right although it pains me to say it. I am 68 and he is 69 and at this stage in life, we are grieving not just for the loss of beloved Cody and Armand, but other beings who have brought us...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jul 08, 2016 1:50 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: sores skin rash? HELP
Replies: 4
Views: 962

Re: sores skin rash? HELP

Oh my heart aches for the poor wee thing. When we rescued my little black cat Armand, he had a massive flea infestation, scratched sore 24/7 but one dose of prescribed flea treatment resolved. His wee body was so sore and I mention this because the Vet said, just as in human head lice infestation, e...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jul 08, 2016 1:33 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: diaorrhea in fur
Replies: 13
Views: 1975

Re: diaorrhea in fur

That's so funny Lilith, you should have said to hubby 'says here I have to try it out on humans first, get your shirt off!'.. or maybe not :). I have used olive oil on rescue cats with dandruff at base of spine, just a little on forefinger, as if I am gently saying hello, and also, as in the case of...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jul 08, 2016 1:20 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: diaorrhea in fur
Replies: 13
Views: 1975

Re: diaorrhea in fur

P.S. Although baby wipes can be unperfumed and are excellent for getting 'cat stains' out of carpets, they still have chemicals in them, can be a bit harsh on cats skin. I wouldn't use them.. they make my nether regions a bit sore!

Issi
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jul 08, 2016 1:10 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: diaorrhea in fur
Replies: 13
Views: 1975

Re: diaorrhea in fur

Hi Randall, my big grey cat suffers from bowel problems and sometimes has 'dirty bum syndrome', occasionally too gross for him to clean himself. Over the years, with him and my other cats, I have found the most effective and least distressing way to clean their fur is to take a large, very soft, men...
by issiandarchie+68
Thu Jul 07, 2016 10:06 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How to Handle the loss please?
Replies: 36
Views: 9131

Re: How to Handle the loss please?

All cats are different Shaz aren't they? Just like people, we love them for their different personalities. My Gandhi is a BIG sook, loves his cuddles. I call him the Velcro Kid, I look down and he's leaning against my leg as if he is stuck there, sleeps on my hubby's pillow, resting his cheek on his...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jul 06, 2016 10:31 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: How to Handle the loss please?
Replies: 36
Views: 9131

Re: How to Handle the loss please?

Hi Tina and Sharon, just popped on to see how you are. I laughed reading about 'the fridge raiding'. My Gandhi is a big muscular moggie with a large portion of Russian Blue thrown in, he can open the fridge, been known to drag a blueberry pie across the kitchen floor, loves pastry, scones, buttercre...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon Jul 04, 2016 8:39 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 3372

Re: young cat CKD

A donkey? I think you are going to have to get bigger cat flap! :).
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jul 02, 2016 8:52 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 3372

Re: young cat CKD

and P.S. I think as most of you are going to 'drink a toast' it would be churlish of me not to join in. So ..here I am.. opening ..pouring .. a chilled bottle of Chablis ..here's to you wonderful people, may tomorrow bring better times, peace in our hearts ... and a discount in the wine aisle ! Chee...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jul 02, 2016 8:41 pm
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 3372

Re: young cat CKD

Oh Sue, I'm so dreadfully sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Kafka. I marvel at how these little creatures can embed themselves in our hearts so quickly. I have a small 'wild bird sanctuary' on my very large allotment, adore the different birds, including the two Magpies squabbling with ea...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jul 02, 2016 10:44 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: young cat CKD
Replies: 23
Views: 3372

Re: young cat CKD:guilt

Forgive me for 'emotional unloading' at a time when so many of you have your own heartaches, but it helps I can come to this forum and express my feelings in private. I have related the sad story of the totally unexpected and devastating demise of our much loved cats Cody and Armand within 4 weeks o...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 18, 2016 9:55 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Any advice as to when I should have her pts?
Replies: 5
Views: 2787

Re: Any advice as to when I should have her pts?

Oh Kris, what an awful dilemma. I'm sorry I don't have the 'answer' to your heart-breaking problem, but can only tell you about 8yr old Cody and pray it helps. As you are aware, she became very ill from renal disease very rapidly, even after re-hydration, which raised our hopes but only worked for 2...
by issiandarchie+68
Fri Jun 17, 2016 10:41 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Kris, your e-mail address is not 'on view' anywhere. It just says on your profile 'send e-mail to Kris35' no address given.
by issiandarchie+68
Thu Jun 16, 2016 1:27 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

What a lovely post, thank you Kris. Yes, I do know what you mean about relapses. We live in a large Victorian tenement flat, all doors leading onto big hallway so you can see in to kitchen across hall from living room for instance, and the other night,I was sitting quietly, watching tv not thinking ...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 15, 2016 10:20 am
Forum: Health and Behaviour Queries, Help and Advice
Topic: Kylie 11/7/16
Replies: 109
Views: 23298

Re: Kylie in forher ultrasound and paw check tomorrow

Thinking of you and your wee pet today Mark, It's horrible when they are sick, you feel helpless don't you and just want to take the pain away from them. All fingers and toes crossed, virtual positive vibes heading your way.

Issi
xx
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 15, 2016 10:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Hi all you lovely, supportive people, I've just popped on to say that yesterday was the first day since 31st March I did not shed a tear and today was the first morning I awoke after a good night's sleep without a churning stomach. I can't properly express my gratitude for all your reassurances in m...
by issiandarchie+68
Sun Jun 12, 2016 9:48 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13682

Re: The hurt is unbearable

I don't think that's morbid at all Wanda, the closeness to your beloved pet's ashes comforts you and who knows how any of us will feel another day? I once watched a programme in which a young woman had the ashes of all her deceased pets over the years, sewn into little pillows, which she kept on the...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 11, 2016 10:40 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Crewella, I am feeling better now, sleeping, still get 'the churns' but not as bad. I had an unexpected weep when I was telling Shaz about the cremations. Oh how I miss them, the house is so quiet, my husband is lovely, a busy man but a dour Scot, doesn't chat. We still have our much loved...
by issiandarchie+68
Sat Jun 11, 2016 10:11 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13682

Re: The hurt is unbearable

Hi Shaz, I can understand the dilemma you and your hubby find yourselves in with Miley's ashes, your concerns are perfectly valid. Armand and Cody hated being alone and so (seems silly, I know) we asked for a ' joint cremation' with other pets, although each time wrapped in their favourite individua...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 08, 2016 2:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13682

Re: The hurt is unbearable

'It's so unfair.. I just want my baby back'. I feel for you. Even now I wake and rage against the injustice of it all, I long for my pets to return. My husband said 'you are not God, you don't get to decide'. It will hurt for quite a while I'm afraid. My sweet Armand followed me everywhere. I still ...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue Jun 07, 2016 2:19 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Vivian, thought I would let you know I still wake with the 'churns' but have stopped taking the diazepam, now get up and get on with life, but last night was dreadful. Just before I fell asleep, I had a clear vision of my beloved Cody on her last morning as if it happened yesterday (it was 29th A...
by issiandarchie+68
Tue Jun 07, 2016 2:08 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: The hurt is unbearable
Replies: 48
Views: 13682

Re: The hurt is unbearable

Hi Shaz, I read your post with a pain in my heart for you. I had exactly the same reaction to the 'empty places' when my wee black cat Armand, died unexpectedly on a routine visit to the vets and exactly a month later, our beautiful silver and white tabby, Cody died from renal failure. The pain is i...
by issiandarchie+68
Thu Jun 02, 2016 12:34 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Vivian, I tried a short course of Diazepam but I still woke up 4hrs later, so knowing this is 'normal' has helped me. My beloved big (he's the size of a small dog!)grey cat Gandhi, is gently biting my hand to get me off the 'mouse' and draping his body over the desk, and takes all the lovi...
by issiandarchie+68
Wed Jun 01, 2016 10:34 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Hi Kris, I was actually thinking about you yesterday and wondering how you were getting along, when up pops your post! Thank you for sharing the story of your friend, it helped to know I'm not alone. My sister 'phoned (she's in Yorkshire, I live in Glasgow) and told me she has suffered the exact sam...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 2:57 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

It's worth a thought Kay, my cat sitter works for Cats Protection and I have worked in the C P charity shop and seen the older cats featured for adoption. I'll give it a week or two though, before asking them for advice/recommendations. I'm exhausted and emotional just now, not a good time to make a...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 12:18 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Re: Night time terrors

Thank you Sue. If it happens tonight, I will try that. I did think about getting another cat, but at 68 (me) and 70 (hubby) it's not really feasible. Gandhi is a big cat with a big personality. We were very lucky that Cody chose us, she climbed up my hubby's trouser leg at the sanctuary, he lifted h...
by issiandarchie+68
Mon May 30, 2016 8:57 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Night time terrors
Replies: 56
Views: 15050

Night time terrors

Some weeks ago I posted on this forum about the unexpected deaths of my beloved cats, Cody and Armand who sadly died within a month of each other. I was overwhelmed with grief, sank into depression and had to seek help from my GP. She gave me a short course of sleeping tablets which helped me fall a...