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by Bertie 2017
Fri Dec 07, 2018 12:15 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: In a pickle over Christmas
Replies: 5
Views: 385

Re: In a pickle over Christmas

Hi thanks for your kind words and support ,and so sorry too hear about your daughter and Granddaughter ,I know it must ,have been so painful for you ,I decided too put my Xmas tree And decorations up ,I feel my home has been ,without joy ,and laughter ,for so long ,my Friend ,made me a wooden white ...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Dec 05, 2018 12:17 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: In a pickle over Christmas
Replies: 5
Views: 385

In a pickle over Christmas

Hi ,this Christmas is my second one without my dear Bertie ,after last Christmas ,I thought This one would be more merrier ,but sadly I am a right pickle ,I would like too have a tree And decorations up ,I have even bought a new artificial tree ,still in box ,I associate Christmas ,of being with the...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:54 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 365

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Hi thanks for your support ,yes I am in a pickle over ,deciding ,what to do this Christmas , Last year was ,so hard because ,I only lost my Bertie ,on the 25 November ,so I understand Your pain ,as for dreams ,yes I believe ,they are a strong link ,too the after life ,I have had many dreams about Be...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:12 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really feeling good
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Re: Really feeling good

Hi thank you so much for your support ,yes losing any member of the family furry or otherwise ,is very painful ,it’s been a very painful and tough year ,for me ,losing Bertie , Was very hard too accept ,because of the unique bond we shared ,and of his young age , But I have come out of this ,feeling...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Dec 01, 2018 8:46 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Doubts about cremation
Replies: 7
Views: 701

Re: Doubts about cremation

Hi ,so sorry ,too hear about your cat ,as for the issue of cremation ,I myself ,in the past Normally haven’t done it ,except for my cat Bertie ,who I lost at the age of seven last year . I felt having his ashes ,would in time ,bring me comfort ,so I went ahead of course ,the Overwhelmed pain ,of los...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 30, 2018 6:27 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really feeling good
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Really feeling good

I feel things are improving ,now ,Bertie’s anniversary ,has passed ,don’t get me wrong , Moving on ,doesn’t mean ,I haven’t forgotten my Bertie (I could never ever do that ) I just feel ,it’s the right time give it a try ,because this last year ,has knocked the stuffing out of me ,it’s taken ,it’s t...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 27, 2018 9:09 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time.
Replies: 4
Views: 321

Re: Time.

Hi first of all I am sorry ,you had to make that heartbreaking decision ,I often say that cats are good ,at hiding they pain ,my Bertie was ,just a normal cat ,on the outside ,you’d never guess ,his bladder ,and spine was damaged ,all I know ,is that ,it’s not easy letting them go Bertie’s anniversa...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 27, 2018 6:46 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
Replies: 7
Views: 428

Re: Really missing my boy Bertie

Hi thanks for your support ,I feel now ,my Bertie’s anniversary has come ,I feel in much better sprits ,now I am not saying that I would have my moments ,but as you have said ,helping others,will be good for me and with that in mind,I will always be there for you all. I understand the ,pain that com...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 27, 2018 4:25 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
Replies: 7
Views: 428

Re: Really missing my boy Bertie

Hi everyone ,thanks so much for your support ,I got through Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,better Than I thought ,in fact ,I felt at peace , I made a decision ,too become a cats Protection , Sponsor ,too help cats ,that are unsuitable ,for new homes ,this way I feel ,that I am doing Some good ,for a chan...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Nov 21, 2018 5:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
Replies: 7
Views: 428

Really missing my boy Bertie

I am really feeling low and depressed ,and lost at the moment ,and feeling life is so unfair , And cruel ,Bertie was my sunshine ,my whole world ,my everything ,,this year has been so Hard ,and painful ,often at times ,I have felt ,like I couldn’t ,keep hanging on ,it has Taken so much from me ,and ...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Nov 20, 2018 5:36 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Nothing seems to help
Replies: 2
Views: 248

Re: Nothing seems to help

Hi Nicky thanks for your reply ,I understand your finding it hard still ,you mustn’t blame Yourself for Hendticks road accident ,as I have said before ,something’s are out of our Control ,if we could see the future ,we could stop these things from happening ,and save Ourselves from this pain and hea...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Nov 18, 2018 7:18 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Nothing seems to help
Replies: 2
Views: 248

Nothing seems to help

Hi ,I feel I need too write this ,because ,next Sunday is Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,losing Bertie. Has hit me harder ,than any other cat ,I have lost ,I am no stranger too pet loss , I usually ,have excepted my loss ,long before now ,I feel ,this grief is just dragging on , And I am going around in ...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Nov 17, 2018 2:43 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Moomoo RIP.
Replies: 4
Views: 321

Re: Moomoo RIP.

Hi first of all ,I am so sorry for your loss ,I hope all the wonderful time s you shared ,will Give your comfort ,in the sad times that come ,and always remember you are among . Friends ,who understand how your feeling ,and won’t judge you ,so never feel you have Too keep your emotions ,too yourself...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Nov 15, 2018 11:09 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why does still hurt so much ?
Replies: 2
Views: 275

Re: Why does still hurt so much ?

Hi thanks for your support and kind words ,my last cat Winnie was 17; years old ,when She died ,and yes for a while ,I found it hard ,but I feel ,Berties loss is so much harder to Accept ,Bertie was only 7 years old ,perfectly healthy ( on the outside ) now I am not saying That because ,Winnie and y...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Nov 12, 2018 8:39 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Will I ever get over my loss ?
Replies: 1
Views: 215

Will I ever get over my loss ?

Hi for all those who are aware ,my cat Bertie ,anniversary is fast approaching ,it will mark , The first year without him ,and I must say 2018 ,will go down ,as my worst year ever , Losing Bertie has nearly destroyed me ,I will always feel ,my grief and pain ,is the worst . I have ever experienced ,...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Nov 12, 2018 4:51 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 365

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Hi Vicky ,yes your right ,we are connected ,by our cats having similar injuries ,except my Bertie could walk perfectly ,and your right ,by keeping our pets alive wouldn’t have been fair ,as speak of Bertie ,when I say this ,I could have learned too keep him alive by , Learning tooo expresse his blad...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Nov 11, 2018 7:12 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 365

Re: I keep dreaming of him

Thank you so much for your support , I believe dreams are your ,heartfelt wishes ,but I too Still believe ,they are a connection between you ,and the sprit world ,I should know , That Bertie wouldn’t be angry ,with me for letting him go ,I suppose , I am angry with myself .for stopping fighting ,the...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Nov 08, 2018 5:29 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I keep dreaming of him
Replies: 8
Views: 365

I keep dreaming of him

Hi I often dream of my dear cat Bertie ,,usually I find them a pleasure ,a secret place . We can meet ,but now my dreams seem too have a dark side ,I have a huge sliding door , On the back of my home ,I dream Bertie is outside ,meowing too come in ,so I open the door .but he refuses too come in ,so ...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Nov 02, 2018 11:27 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
Replies: 7
Views: 385

Re: 12 days in and still tormented

Please don’t be so hard on yourself ,as I have send ,it takes time ,it’s almost a year since , Bertie left ,and tonight I burst into tears ,sobbing my heart out ,so yes even though I get Good days ,I still have my demons ,as for that night playing in your head ,I had the same experience ,I don’t kno...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Nov 01, 2018 1:48 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
Replies: 7
Views: 385

Re: 12 days in and still tormented

Hi so sorry for your loss ,yes I have often wondered ,why you couldn’t treat a cat ,for spinal injury ,just like in humans ,I suppose in a way ,you and myself have experienced the same thing ,my Bertie had spine damage too ,he could walk ok ,it was his bladder ,that had been , Damaged ,the tail is p...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Oct 30, 2018 11:28 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Why does still hurt so much ?
Replies: 2
Views: 275

Why does still hurt so much ?

It’s been almost a year (25 November ) since I lost my dear Bertie ,and I feel ,I will never . Ever get over it ,or move on I feel I am stuck in a rut ,reliving the same nightmare every day. ,of course if I am honest ,I do get my better days ,where I feel I am improving ,but sadly.it isn’t long befo...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Oct 29, 2018 6:50 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
Replies: 13
Views: 628

Re: Im absolutely heart broken

Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,and so young ,it’s hard enough coming to terms ,with a loss Of a beloved cat ,when they are old ,but too lose a cat so suddenly and so young ,is so hard, Too understand and accept ,al I can say is life is so unfair and unkind ,I can understand your pain ,because I los...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Oct 25, 2018 9:41 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic
Replies: 29
Views: 8996

Re: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic

Hi first of all ,I am so sorry you lost ,smudge he was so beautiful ,secondly ,accidents Happen ,so please don’t be soo hard on yourself ,sadly we can never see the future , Otherwise my Bertie would still be here ,I lost Bertie too in a accident ,it’s hard when Grieving , too make decisions , and e...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Oct 24, 2018 12:53 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Replies: 5
Views: 283

Re: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up

Hi thanks for your reply ,yes accidents do happen ,accidents ,we have no control over , Yet still we feel guilty ,it took me a while ,too accept it wasn’t my flaunt ,I feel I need too learn ,from this ,and make aware ,the dangers of washing machine doors .i never Ever thought ,something like that ,c...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Oct 21, 2018 3:15 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
Replies: 12
Views: 478

Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss

I am sorry too ,hear your story ,and losss ,it makes me sick too the stomach ,too think The person who did it ,didn’t have the heart ,too stop ,and they don’t care or understand That this animal is loved and cherished ,I understand ,pet loss only too well ,and I hope You have phone numbers ,for pet ...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Oct 19, 2018 1:34 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Replies: 5
Views: 283

Re: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up

Thank you so much for your kind words and support ,they say you never really get over it , Just learn to live with it ,I have mixed emotions ,over Bertie’s anniversary ,part of me Is dreading it ,but the other part of me ,what’s it too come ,so I can get it over with , Well 2018 ,if I am honest ,reg...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Oct 17, 2018 10:26 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Replies: 5
Views: 283

Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up

I have had a good few weeks ,where I.fel ,I was handling things ,but these last few days . I feel ,I am slipping back into my ,old ways ,feeling depressed and spending too much time . In bed ,and missing my Bertie ,so much it hurts ,I wonder? Is it because of his anniversary Coming up on the 25 of N...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Oct 14, 2018 9:20 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression
Replies: 7
Views: 349

Re: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression

Thanks again for your support , I couldn’t imagine losing a young child ,how can you Move on ? After that ,I take my hat off too you ,for finding inner strength ,even if it’s Thought a budda friend ,(yes I do believe in that stuff ) I suppose I loved my Bertie , Just like a mother ,would love a chil...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Oct 12, 2018 3:11 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression
Replies: 7
Views: 349

Re: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression

Thank you all so much ,for your support and advice ,I suppose ,I am being so hard on myself . Expecting ,too have moved on by now ,I am no stranger too pet loss ,but this time ,feels Different ,they is always one ,that stands out from the rest ,and that was Bertie ,I ve Got too be honest ,I loved hi...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Oct 11, 2018 4:33 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression
Replies: 7
Views: 349

Feeling like I am slipping back into depression

I lost my cat Bertie ,almost ,a year ago ,and it’s been ,a really bad experience , My loss nearly destroyed me ,but these last few weeks ,I have felt hope ,that things Were inproving ,of course as you know ,life will never ever be the same ,but I felt Good ,now I am depressed again ,things are not g...