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by Bertie 2017
Wed Oct 10, 2018 12:49 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 3 months after, it's hit me again.
Replies: 4
Views: 290

Re: 3 months after, it's hit me again.

Hi thanks for your support ,I wouldn’t be so hard on yourself ,for feeling the way , You feel ,I like yourself have experienced other losses ,in the last five years ,I lost My mum ,my uncle ,due too cancer ,but losing Bertie was like kicking me when your down , I believe cats ,can give you something...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Oct 08, 2018 1:03 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Turned a corner
Replies: 4
Views: 255

Re: Turned a corner

Hi yes ,a broken heart ,will always mend ,but their will always be a scar ,life is Like a big jigsaw puzzle ,a huge picture ,with pieces missing ,that’s how I see it , As for Bertie yes he never liked me getting upset ,I believe cats know and understand Human emotions ,,my moods would all ways refle...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Oct 07, 2018 2:11 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Turned a corner
Replies: 4
Views: 255

Re: Turned a corner

Hi thanks for your support .yes what you say is true ,I feel that once grief Gets a hold on you ,it doesn’t let go ,so sometimes ,you have too stand up and fight , No that doesn’t mean ,I will forget Bertie ,(that could never happen ) but I have too Put these negative thoughts and emotions behind me...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Oct 05, 2018 7:17 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Turned a corner
Replies: 4
Views: 255

Turned a corner

Hi ,as you know ,I lost my dear Bertie ,last November ,and since then I have had A rollercoaster of emotions ,losing.bertie ,has devastated me ,but I am happy too Say I feel the worst is behind me ,these last few weeks ,I have reconnected with some Dear friends of mine ,friends who understand what I...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Oct 05, 2018 6:58 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: 3 months after, it's hit me again.
Replies: 4
Views: 290

Re: 3 months after, it's hit me again.

Hi so sorry for your loss ,I perfectly understand ,what you are going through ,losing a cat at At any age ,is heartbreaking enough ,but one as young as jasper ,who had so muck more Living too do ,life is so unfair ,sometimes ,the way you’re feeling right now isn’t Hormones ,it’s grief ,pure and simp...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Oct 03, 2018 1:14 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling happy, makes me sad
Replies: 4
Views: 239

Re: Feeling happy, makes me sad

Hi thanks for your support it means a lot ,yes it’s been a tough 11 months ,and I feel in myself ,that things are improving ,in the early days ,,I blamed myself for Bertie’s Accident ,and many times though had I made the right decision having him P T S ,? Should I have fought more ,? The answer too ...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Oct 01, 2018 5:34 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling happy, makes me sad
Replies: 4
Views: 239

Re: Feeling happy, makes me sad

Hi thank you so much for your support and kind words ,I feel my family hasn’t supported Me at all though this horrible time ,,just go about their daily life’s too busy too spare A thought or a moment for me it seems ,i suppose that’s why ,I act normal around them , Saves me more heartache ,because w...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Sep 29, 2018 4:15 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Feeling happy, makes me sad
Replies: 4
Views: 239

Feeling happy, makes me sad

Since my cat Bertie was P T S last year in November ,my life has been so hard without him . I have lived through one of the darkest years 2018 ,has been so cruel ,just recently I have Reconnect with some old friends of mine ,I lost touch with ,mainly down to me ,my Grief had me ,locked away from soc...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Sep 22, 2018 12:08 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still feeling depressed
Replies: 4
Views: 358

Re: Still feeling depressed

Hi again thanks for your reply ,I feel my grief for Bertie is stronger ,and deeper than Any other grief ,I have experienced before ,sadly I am no stranger too it ,my last cat Winnie lived too the good age of 17 years ,yes I grieved in my own. Way for her Put her death didn’t come as a shock ,the las...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Sep 19, 2018 1:31 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still feeling depressed
Replies: 4
Views: 358

Re: Still feeling depressed

Thank you so much for your kind words and support ,I am not sure if you are aware ? Bertie was a perfectly fit ,and healthy cat on the outside ,but he had bladder nerves damage Caused by his tail ,getting trapped in the washing machine door ,i am not going into The ,grory detals ,but it caused damag...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 17, 2018 11:32 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Still feeling depressed
Replies: 4
Views: 358

Still feeling depressed

As you know ,I lost my dear friend Bertie ,just over 10 months ago ,and I am Still getting my days ,when I am feeling really depressed ,I just find it so hard too Accept ,and move on , and often bitter ,and cheated by my loss ,Bertie was taken Too soon ,at the age of seven years ,he was a cat in a m...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 17, 2018 1:11 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time to say goodbye
Replies: 37
Views: 7181

Re: Time to say goodbye

Sorry it did go to the right place
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 17, 2018 1:08 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time to say goodbye
Replies: 37
Views: 7181

Re: Time to say goodbye

Sorry I think I have posted the wrong person
Sorry about that
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 17, 2018 1:05 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Time to say goodbye
Replies: 37
Views: 7181

Re: Time to say goodbye

Hi kris , you made the right decision ,letting your cat go ,I have seen many cats Been P T S ,and it’s a kind death ,still after losing Bertie last year ,they was. Many thoughts Had I made the right decision ? ,and every time the answer was yes ,,I knew it was only A matter of time ,before Bertie di...
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 17, 2018 12:41 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Alfie
Replies: 7
Views: 422

Re: Alfie

So sorry too hear about Alfie ,losing a beloved pet ,is heartbreaking ,I feel your loss And pain ,how is his brother coping ? ,my other cat basil missed his brother Bertie, For a short while ,it was heartbreaking watching him look for him ,but now 10 months on , Basil is acting like he never had a b...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Sep 16, 2018 3:22 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My heart is broken
Replies: 7
Views: 621

Re: My heart is broken

You did the right thing ,letting him go ,pain free and with dignity ,but ,knowing. That Doesn’t ,stop you feeling ,his loss ,but I what you too know ,you are not grieving alone , They is many people ,who are going through ,the same thing ,kind people who understand , Your pain ,and will always suppo...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Sep 16, 2018 2:55 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Finding it hard too move on
Replies: 3
Views: 248

Re: Finding it hard too move on

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support , I am no stranger too pet loss , But with Bertie ,this feels ,so different ,my grief is so deep and painful ,too cope with ,if You look at the facts ,Bertie only lived seven short years , most cats live too at least 14 / 16 years , so in a way a...
by Bertie 2017
Wed Sep 12, 2018 10:56 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Finding it hard too move on
Replies: 3
Views: 248

Finding it hard too move on

I it’s been almost 10 months since ,I had Bertie ,put too sleep , even though ,I knew It was the right decision ,( we had tried too save him for 3 weeks ) it’s still left a huge , Hole ,in my heart ,,my home ,my sole ,I have too wake up each morning ,and face , Another day ,without my Bertie ,and th...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Sep 06, 2018 2:36 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My heart is broken
Replies: 7
Views: 621

Re: My heart is broken

Hi so sorry ,too hear ,about your cat ,you made ,the right decision ,I know myself . That putting a cat too sleep ,is a hard and painful decision ,too make ,and please Don’t feel ashamed ,,about your feelings ,I have cried so much ,over my loss , I feel I cart cry anymore ,cats spend so little time ...
by Bertie 2017
Tue Sep 04, 2018 5:14 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Miss him so much
Replies: 6
Views: 306

Re: Miss him so much

Thank you so much ,everyone for your kind words and support ,I know you all
Are suffering ,in your own grief ,so thank you so much Bertie would be so happy
I am getting lots of support and understanding
He’d give two paws up
by Bertie 2017
Mon Sep 03, 2018 5:16 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Miss him so much
Replies: 6
Views: 306

Re: Miss him so much

Thank you so much for ,your advice ,I am getting good days ,but often ,I will Have a bad day ,I have Bertie’s brother ,called basil ,he’s a great comfort too me , And I did seek medical help ,earlier this year ,was given antidepressants ,they Seemed too work ,I felt like I was in a haze ,it felt goo...
by Bertie 2017
Sun Sep 02, 2018 7:17 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Grieving with guilt and I can't take it. Please help.
Replies: 5
Views: 1982

Re: Grieving with guilt and I can't take it. Please help.

Hi I was crippled with grief over my Bertie, getting his back end and tail Trapped in the washing machine door I keep telling myself it was a freak accident One I couldn’t for see it played over in My head me closing the door and finding Him there , even after the washing machine Was replaced I foun...
by Bertie 2017
Sat Sep 01, 2018 11:21 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Miss him so much
Replies: 6
Views: 306

Miss him so much

It’s been almost 10 months since ,I lost my dear Bertie ,and I feel ,it’s so hard too let Go ,I am not eating ,just sleeping , and feeling like ,I will never ever be happy again Losing Bertie has hit me hard , and I can never ,seem too accept my loss and move on , I long for the good times , And dre...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Aug 31, 2018 8:16 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: Not doing so well
Replies: 6
Views: 766

Re: Not doing so well

Hi these feelings are natural ,I lost my cat Bertie ,and even nine months Later ,I am finding it hard ,Bertie was my whole world my everything ,and I expect You feel ,the same way about your cat ? ,then is a lot of help online ,and many Charity’s run support lines , which I feel are a great help , h...
by Bertie 2017
Fri Aug 31, 2018 5:02 am
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: I lost my cat today and it was my fault
Replies: 9
Views: 555

Re: I lost my cat today and it was my fault

Hi please don’t blame yourself ,bad things happen ,we have ,no control over Sometimes a good deed ,can backfire ,you seem ,too me ,too be a good person , Who made a mistake ,and I totally understand ,the love and bond ,you had with Your cat ,plus I expect ,you feel that you let your cat down , as I ...
by Bertie 2017
Thu Aug 30, 2018 8:47 pm
Forum: Bereavement Support
Topic: My cat one eyed Bertie
Replies: 0
Views: 201

My cat one eyed Bertie

Hi I lost my cat Bertie , in November he was only 7 years old I had too Put him too sleep because he trapped His tail as I was closing the washing machine Door , that lead too damage too his spin And bladder , he ended up with bladder Neve damage , it’s been over 9 months But I am finding it hard to...