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- Fri Dec 14, 2018 3:10 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
- Replies: 13
- Views: 2216
Re: Im absolutely heart broken
Hi Vicky ,I wouldn’t stress too much about Xmas ,your family will understand ,they is no Good time ,too lose ,a beloved cat ,but so close too Xmas ,it’s so hard ,I recall last Christmas Was very painful for me , after all Bertie wasn’t even gone ,two weeks ,and yet I felt I had Too slap on a smile ,...
- Thu Dec 13, 2018 12:40 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
- Replies: 13
- Views: 2216
Re: Im absolutely heart broken
Hi I know ,it’s hard ,on the both of you ,trust me ,I have been ,there ,but something you Said ,Vicky had me thinking ,have I mentioned before ,that Bertie has a brother ? ,well I have ,allowed basil ,the freedom ,of my house ,except for Bertie’s bed on top of the , Wardrobe ,the last year ,Basil ha...
- Fri Dec 07, 2018 12:15 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: In a pickle over Christmas
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1069
Re: In a pickle over Christmas
Hi thanks for your kind words and support ,and so sorry too hear about your daughter and Granddaughter ,I know it must ,have been so painful for you ,I decided too put my Xmas tree And decorations up ,I feel my home has been ,without joy ,and laughter ,for so long ,my Friend ,made me a wooden white ...
- Wed Dec 05, 2018 12:17 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: In a pickle over Christmas
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1069
In a pickle over Christmas
Hi ,this Christmas is my second one without my dear Bertie ,after last Christmas ,I thought This one would be more merrier ,but sadly I am a right pickle ,I would like too have a tree And decorations up ,I have even bought a new artificial tree ,still in box ,I associate Christmas ,of being with the...
- Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:54 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: I keep dreaming of him
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1283
Re: I keep dreaming of him
Hi thanks for your support ,yes I am in a pickle over ,deciding ,what to do this Christmas , Last year was ,so hard because ,I only lost my Bertie ,on the 25 November ,so I understand Your pain ,as for dreams ,yes I believe ,they are a strong link ,too the after life ,I have had many dreams about Be...
- Sat Dec 01, 2018 9:12 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Really feeling good
- Replies: 3
- Views: 769
Re: Really feeling good
Hi thank you so much for your support ,yes losing any member of the family furry or otherwise ,is very painful ,it’s been a very painful and tough year ,for me ,losing Bertie , Was very hard too accept ,because of the unique bond we shared ,and of his young age , But I have come out of this ,feeling...
- Sat Dec 01, 2018 8:46 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Doubts about cremation
- Replies: 9
- Views: 18007
Re: Doubts about cremation
Hi ,so sorry ,too hear about your cat ,as for the issue of cremation ,I myself ,in the past Normally haven’t done it ,except for my cat Bertie ,who I lost at the age of seven last year . I felt having his ashes ,would in time ,bring me comfort ,so I went ahead of course ,the Overwhelmed pain ,of los...
- Fri Nov 30, 2018 6:27 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Really feeling good
- Replies: 3
- Views: 769
Really feeling good
I feel things are improving ,now ,Bertie’s anniversary ,has passed ,don’t get me wrong , Moving on ,doesn’t mean ,I haven’t forgotten my Bertie (I could never ever do that ) I just feel ,it’s the right time give it a try ,because this last year ,has knocked the stuffing out of me ,it’s taken ,it’s t...
- Tue Nov 27, 2018 9:09 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Time.
- Replies: 4
- Views: 1026
Re: Time.
Hi first of all I am sorry ,you had to make that heartbreaking decision ,I often say that cats are good ,at hiding they pain ,my Bertie was ,just a normal cat ,on the outside ,you’d never guess ,his bladder ,and spine was damaged ,all I know ,is that ,it’s not easy letting them go Bertie’s anniversa...
- Tue Nov 27, 2018 6:46 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1233
Re: Really missing my boy Bertie
Hi thanks for your support ,I feel now ,my Bertie’s anniversary has come ,I feel in much better sprits ,now I am not saying that I would have my moments ,but as you have said ,helping others,will be good for me and with that in mind,I will always be there for you all. I understand the ,pain that com...
- Tue Nov 27, 2018 4:25 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1233
Re: Really missing my boy Bertie
Hi everyone ,thanks so much for your support ,I got through Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,better Than I thought ,in fact ,I felt at peace , I made a decision ,too become a cats Protection , Sponsor ,too help cats ,that are unsuitable ,for new homes ,this way I feel ,that I am doing Some good ,for a chan...
- Wed Nov 21, 2018 5:22 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Really missing my boy Bertie
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1233
Really missing my boy Bertie
I am really feeling low and depressed ,and lost at the moment ,and feeling life is so unfair , And cruel ,Bertie was my sunshine ,my whole world ,my everything ,,this year has been so Hard ,and painful ,often at times ,I have felt ,like I couldn’t ,keep hanging on ,it has Taken so much from me ,and ...
- Tue Nov 20, 2018 5:36 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Nothing seems to help
- Replies: 2
- Views: 648
Re: Nothing seems to help
Hi Nicky thanks for your reply ,I understand your finding it hard still ,you mustn’t blame Yourself for Hendticks road accident ,as I have said before ,something’s are out of our Control ,if we could see the future ,we could stop these things from happening ,and save Ourselves from this pain and hea...
- Sun Nov 18, 2018 7:18 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Nothing seems to help
- Replies: 2
- Views: 648
Nothing seems to help
Hi ,I feel I need too write this ,because ,next Sunday is Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,losing Bertie. Has hit me harder ,than any other cat ,I have lost ,I am no stranger too pet loss , I usually ,have excepted my loss ,long before now ,I feel ,this grief is just dragging on , And I am going around in ...
- Sat Nov 17, 2018 2:43 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Moomoo RIP.
- Replies: 4
- Views: 1064
Re: Moomoo RIP.
Hi first of all ,I am so sorry for your loss ,I hope all the wonderful time s you shared ,will Give your comfort ,in the sad times that come ,and always remember you are among . Friends ,who understand how your feeling ,and won’t judge you ,so never feel you have Too keep your emotions ,too yourself...
- Thu Nov 15, 2018 11:09 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Why does still hurt so much ?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 605
Re: Why does still hurt so much ?
Hi thanks for your support and kind words ,my last cat Winnie was 17; years old ,when She died ,and yes for a while ,I found it hard ,but I feel ,Berties loss is so much harder to Accept ,Bertie was only 7 years old ,perfectly healthy ( on the outside ) now I am not saying That because ,Winnie and y...
- Mon Nov 12, 2018 8:39 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Will I ever get over my loss ?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 525
Will I ever get over my loss ?
Hi for all those who are aware ,my cat Bertie ,anniversary is fast approaching ,it will mark , The first year without him ,and I must say 2018 ,will go down ,as my worst year ever , Losing Bertie has nearly destroyed me ,I will always feel ,my grief and pain ,is the worst . I have ever experienced ,...
- Mon Nov 12, 2018 4:51 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: I keep dreaming of him
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1283
Re: I keep dreaming of him
Hi Vicky ,yes your right ,we are connected ,by our cats having similar injuries ,except my Bertie could walk perfectly ,and your right ,by keeping our pets alive wouldn’t have been fair ,as speak of Bertie ,when I say this ,I could have learned too keep him alive by , Learning tooo expresse his blad...
- Sun Nov 11, 2018 7:12 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: I keep dreaming of him
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1283
Re: I keep dreaming of him
Thank you so much for your support , I believe dreams are your ,heartfelt wishes ,but I too Still believe ,they are a connection between you ,and the sprit world ,I should know , That Bertie wouldn’t be angry ,with me for letting him go ,I suppose , I am angry with myself .for stopping fighting ,the...
- Thu Nov 08, 2018 5:29 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: I keep dreaming of him
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1283
I keep dreaming of him
Hi I often dream of my dear cat Bertie ,,usually I find them a pleasure ,a secret place . We can meet ,but now my dreams seem too have a dark side ,I have a huge sliding door , On the back of my home ,I dream Bertie is outside ,meowing too come in ,so I open the door .but he refuses too come in ,so ...
- Fri Nov 02, 2018 11:27 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1216
Re: 12 days in and still tormented
Please don’t be so hard on yourself ,as I have send ,it takes time ,it’s almost a year since , Bertie left ,and tonight I burst into tears ,sobbing my heart out ,so yes even though I get Good days ,I still have my demons ,as for that night playing in your head ,I had the same experience ,I don’t kno...
- Thu Nov 01, 2018 1:48 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: 12 days in and still tormented
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1216
Re: 12 days in and still tormented
Hi so sorry for your loss ,yes I have often wondered ,why you couldn’t treat a cat ,for spinal injury ,just like in humans ,I suppose in a way ,you and myself have experienced the same thing ,my Bertie had spine damage too ,he could walk ok ,it was his bladder ,that had been , Damaged ,the tail is p...
- Tue Oct 30, 2018 11:28 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Why does still hurt so much ?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 605
Why does still hurt so much ?
It’s been almost a year (25 November ) since I lost my dear Bertie ,and I feel ,I will never . Ever get over it ,or move on I feel I am stuck in a rut ,reliving the same nightmare every day. ,of course if I am honest ,I do get my better days ,where I feel I am improving ,but sadly.it isn’t long befo...
- Mon Oct 29, 2018 6:50 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
- Replies: 13
- Views: 2216
Re: Im absolutely heart broken
Hi I am so sorry for your loss ,and so young ,it’s hard enough coming to terms ,with a loss Of a beloved cat ,when they are old ,but too lose a cat so suddenly and so young ,is so hard, Too understand and accept ,al I can say is life is so unfair and unkind ,I can understand your pain ,because I los...
- Thu Oct 25, 2018 9:41 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic
- Replies: 29
- Views: 12258
Re: Heartbroken lost my first cat to traffic
Hi first of all ,I am so sorry you lost ,smudge he was so beautiful ,secondly ,accidents Happen ,so please don’t be soo hard on yourself ,sadly we can never see the future , Otherwise my Bertie would still be here ,I lost Bertie too in a accident ,it’s hard when Grieving , too make decisions , and e...
- Wed Oct 24, 2018 12:53 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1628
Re: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Hi thanks for your reply ,yes accidents do happen ,accidents ,we have no control over , Yet still we feel guilty ,it took me a while ,too accept it wasn’t my flaunt ,I feel I need too learn ,from this ,and make aware ,the dangers of washing machine doors .i never Ever thought ,something like that ,c...
- Sun Oct 21, 2018 3:15 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
- Replies: 12
- Views: 1866
Re: losing another baby following RTA only 2 years after previous loss
I am sorry too ,hear your story ,and losss ,it makes me sick too the stomach ,too think The person who did it ,didn’t have the heart ,too stop ,and they don’t care or understand That this animal is loved and cherished ,I understand ,pet loss only too well ,and I hope You have phone numbers ,for pet ...
- Fri Oct 19, 2018 1:34 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1628
Re: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
Thank you so much for your kind words and support ,they say you never really get over it , Just learn to live with it ,I have mixed emotions ,over Bertie’s anniversary ,part of me Is dreading it ,but the other part of me ,what’s it too come ,so I can get it over with , Well 2018 ,if I am honest ,reg...
- Wed Oct 17, 2018 10:26 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1628
Feeling low because of his anniversary coming up
I have had a good few weeks ,where I.fel ,I was handling things ,but these last few days . I feel ,I am slipping back into my ,old ways ,feeling depressed and spending too much time . In bed ,and missing my Bertie ,so much it hurts ,I wonder? Is it because of his anniversary Coming up on the 25 of N...
- Sun Oct 14, 2018 9:20 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1162
Re: Feeling like I am slipping back into depression
Thanks again for your support , I couldn’t imagine losing a young child ,how can you Move on ? After that ,I take my hat off too you ,for finding inner strength ,even if it’s Thought a budda friend ,(yes I do believe in that stuff ) I suppose I loved my Bertie , Just like a mother ,would love a chil...