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- Sat Apr 20, 2019 11:11 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Still isn’t getting any easier
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1502
Still isn’t getting any easier
Just too ri mind you all ,I lost my dear Bertie ,in November 2017 ,and still I am fighting too . Let go ,but it’s so hard ,and very painful still ,Bertie was my sunshine ,he always made me Smile ,and very loving ,and was a real character ,life wasn’t dull ,I miss him so much ,I Feel I will never be ...
- Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:38 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Thanks Julia ,I am on a waiting list ,I decided to seek help, because my mood swings ,have Started too effect basil ,I noticed the other day ,he wasn’t himself ,he even stopped eating , So unlike him ,like his brother ,Basil loves his food ,it’s not fair on him ,I understand perfectly well ,cats rea...
- Mon Apr 08, 2019 6:22 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Tragic death of my cat
- Replies: 6
- Views: 1857
Re: Tragic death of my cat
Hi first of all ,I am so sorry to hear about your loss ,you shouldn’t blame yourself ,for not Noticing sooner ,I strongly believe ,cats go too ground ,with injuries ,and when scared , Back in 1996 ,I lost a cat ,from a dog attack ,I witnessed it ,and rushed him down to the vet , Even noticing that s...
- Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:18 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Thanks for your kind words and support ,I have decided too accept help ,not just for myself , But Bertie’s ,litter mate and brother basil ,I have discovered that basil is affected by my many mood swings , and depression ,I’d even say ,basil was off his food yesterday ,so unlike Him ,I tricked the do...
- Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:03 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on
- Replies: 22
- Views: 9019
Re: Night time terrors: 1 year on
Hi ,yes losing cats ,is painful ,and the grief is so controlling ,It will destroy you ,if you let it , But as you have said ,we have something ,death and grief ,can never take away from us , Yes that’s the love and bond we share ,( and always will ) with our amazing beautiful Beloved cats ,not forge...
- Tue Mar 26, 2019 3:11 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Thanks for your support and kind words ,i d like too say ,things are improving ,but sometimes I feel ,I am slipping back down ,you see with grief you get thoughts that go around in your mind,,that just won’t go away ,like did the vet ,give the right treatment ? ,silly I know , But too be fair ,I did...
- Wed Mar 13, 2019 12:25 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Thanks everyone for your support ,it means a lot ,yes grief is usually something most of us , Are uncomfortable about ,when it comes to someone else ,but this is family we are talking about ,I recall after my mum died ,every one ,was so helpful and kind too me ,we support Each other ,but I feel when...
- Wed Feb 27, 2019 10:43 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time
Hi thanks for your support and kind words ,it’s times like this ,you know who too turn too , It’s sad to hear ,about that poor child ,it just goes to show ,how cruel life can be ,and my Heart goes out ,too the parents and family ,of this child , of course I class Bertie as my Child ,because I have h...
- Fri Feb 22, 2019 12:02 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
I cart forgive my family’s lack of support
Hi ,guys ,it’s been over ,a year now ,since I lost my darling Bertie ,it’s been the toughest Loss yet ,I have been through hell ,on earth ,losing Bertie ,has almost destroyed me ,so I am hurt that my family doesn’t care or understand ,Christmas 2017 was a hard one . Because Bertie ,hadn’t been ,gone...
- Mon Feb 18, 2019 12:45 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Hi jules ,good too hear from you ,yes it is early days ,it’s been well over a year ,since I last held ,Bertie ,I’d be laying if ,I said ,I didn’t get my bad days ,still but that’s all There are ,of course the longing to hold them and see them ,never ever gos away ,it just Gets ,less painful ,and not...
- Thu Feb 14, 2019 7:56 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Hi jules, good too hear from you again ,yes basil loves his new bed ,spends a lot of time Up there ,only comes down ,at feeding time ,typical cat lol ,in fact , I haven’t spotted him By the radiator ,for a while he’s usually glued to the thing lol ,I find seeing basil up there In a kind of healing w...
- Sat Feb 09, 2019 4:14 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Hi jules ,yes cats are masters ,at finding the best spots ,lol as for Bertie’s favourite spot , I have too accept ,that things change ,and life goes on ,and what is important ,that my Living cat basil ,is happy and contented ,I have learned that keeping Bertie’s bed empty Isn’t going too bring him b...
- Wed Feb 06, 2019 8:04 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Re: Maybe it’s time ,
Hi thanks for your message ,yes I believe Bertie has ,left. His favourite spot ,too Basil , I am starting to ,accept and get used too ,of course ,I did cry at first ,but the way I see it Now ,is that it’s not a cold and empty space ,anymore ,I d like too believe ,Bertie is up There ,with him, cuddli...
- Mon Feb 04, 2019 8:29 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Maybe it’s time ,
- Replies: 23
- Views: 3862
Maybe it’s time ,
Hi everyone ,for all those who knows Bertie’s story ,understands how much he ment too me But ,Bertie had a favourite spot on top of my wardrobe ,he even had a bed up there , He loved it ,anyway back to my problem ,you see Bertie’s brother and litter mate ,Basil Has started use his brothers favourite...
- Mon Feb 04, 2019 8:02 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1268
Re: My heart is still in a million pieces
Hi jules thanks as always ,for your kind words and support ,yes ,I believe Bertie would be Here ,if it wasn’t for the freak accident ,that caused me ,too have make that heartbreaking Decision ,too put him too sleep ,he was perfectly happy and normal as I cat could be , As you have said ,it’s harder ...
- Mon Feb 04, 2019 7:50 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Unexpectedly Lost My Cat
- Replies: 4
- Views: 1192
Re: Unexpectedly Lost My Cat
Hi black cat lover 123 :my heart totally gos out ,too you ,I lost my cat Bertie before his time Please read my posts ,and I am honest with you ,it had hit me harder than ,any other loss , We all know ,our cats lifespan ,isn’t as long as ours , but losing them at any age is tough, But losing them ,su...
- Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:08 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1268
Re: My heart is still in a million pieces
Hi thank you both so much ,for your kind words and support ,yes sadly I have learned grief . Hasn’t got a time table ,and I feel because Bertie ,was only seven years old ,I feel very Cheated , and angry by it ,and yes you’re right ,the only cure ,for grief ,is grief ,I often Say it’s like being on a...
- Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:15 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: My heart is still in a million pieces
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1268
My heart is still in a million pieces
Hi ,I am now entering into my second year without my dear Bertie ,and too honest ,the first year ,didn’t effect me as much , as I expected it too,but now it’s hit me ,so hard ,the Reality ,that Bertie is never ever coming back ,of course I knew that ,but knowing that Is making me feel so angry ,I fe...
- Fri Jan 18, 2019 7:52 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi Graham thanks for the kind words ,yes I agree with you ,it does get ,easier not better , Because I believe ,you live ,with this loss ,for the rest of your life ,but I wrote the post Back in November ,close too Bertie’s first anniversary and Xmas of course ,so my emotions were,all over the place ,...
- Thu Jan 03, 2019 10:45 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi Julia ,thanks for your kind and wish ,words ,I believe I posted my thoughts ,about going Back ,too square one ,when it was coming up ,too Bertie’s 1st anniversary ,and of course Christmas. Was coming up ,and as you know ,2018 ,had been a tough year ,so it’s no wonder ,my mood and emotions were ba...
- Mon Dec 31, 2018 3:09 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi Julia ,thanks for your message ,yes I ,had a quiet Christmas ,as well visited family on Boxing Day ,I felt that was long enough , for me ,after losing my Bertie ,I feel ,short trips Are the best ,so how’s things going now ? ,do you have plans for New Year’s Eve ? I see It as a fresh start ,puttin...
- Mon Dec 24, 2018 8:21 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi Julia ,thanks for your kind words ,that ,post ,wasn’t directed ,at you ,it’s just some one Yesterday ,really had ,a go at me ,I understand people are concerned ,about me ,but they Is no need ,too be a bully or rude ,anyway how’s things ? I know ,it isn’t easy for you at The moment ,have you decid...
- Mon Dec 24, 2018 12:29 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi ,it’s me again ,I have been reading the post again ,and I am not ,trying ,too grab all , The attention ,I am just like everyone else , suffering a lose of a beloved cat ,and if You ,read ,other people’s posts ,you will see ,I am trying too support other people,by doing so ,I am putting my own ,pa...
- Sun Dec 23, 2018 9:51 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi sorry I feel after reading ,the post ,at the bottom ,I disagree with some of ,the things That ,have ,been said ,no I am not angry ,I just feel I need too ,nave my say ,I haven’t Touch a drop of drink ,over this last year ,and for ringing the blue cross. I haven’t rang Them as many times ,as you h...
- Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:01 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: I miss her so much it hurts
- Replies: 10
- Views: 1754
Re: I miss her so much it hurts
Hi miss meg ,first of all ,I am so sorry for your loss ,and yes I know what you mean by people Who ,doesn’t understand ,over this last year ,I have had some very painful and hurtful Comments ,over my cat Bertie ,but all I can say ,is that you have people here who knows And understands ,how you are f...
- Fri Dec 21, 2018 7:33 am
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Re: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
Hi ,friends ,thanks for your support ,it means a lot ,once in a while a cat will come into Your life ,and turn it upside down ,a cat who is unique ,and special ,that was Bertie ,he Was very intelligent ,and was always up ,too no good ,Bertie did things ,I thought were , Impossible ,for a cat ,he def...
- Wed Dec 19, 2018 10:46 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
- Replies: 16
- Views: 2901
Sometimes I feel ,like I am back too square 1
For those who ,don’t know ,I lost my cat Bertie ,last November ,too bladder nerves damage , Aged only 7 years old ,losing Bertie ,so young ,and so soon ,all most destroyed me ,Bertie Was my whole world my everything ,perhaps I loved him ,too much ,now too my point , This year has been so hard ,and t...
- Sun Dec 16, 2018 10:33 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
- Replies: 13
- Views: 2759
Re: Im absolutely heart broken
Hi Julia ,yes staying at home ,this year ,is a good idea ,because I really thought my family , Would understand ,how I was feeling ,so that is why ,I decided too visit my family ,last Christmas ,I soon found out ,how wrong I was ,far from being a great comfort too me , They just made matters worse ,...
- Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:20 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: Im absolutely heart broken
- Replies: 13
- Views: 2759
Re: Im absolutely heart broken
Hi Julia ,I am so sorry ,you are finding it ,hard ,and Christmas ,somehow makes it worse , I understand your loss ,and so sorry too ,hear about merlin ,I know like my Bertie ,what Merlin ,ment too you ,,too some people ,cats are our whole world ,well Bertie was too me , And I’d be ,lying if I said ,...
- Fri Dec 14, 2018 3:32 pm
- Forum: Bereavement Support
- Topic: In a pickle over Christmas
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1232
Re: In a pickle over Christmas
Thank you so much for your support ,yes I was in a pickle ,but now I have started putting up The tree and decorations ,I cart seem to stop ,lol ,and of course ,I have made sure Bertie Hasn’t been forgotten ,at Xmas ,I made a Moonpig card ,with his and basils photo on , Too some ,it seems crazy ,but ...