I have a female cat, Aya, she is about 9 months now. She is MCOx NFC, both parents pedegree, but I don't bother about papers.She is indoor cat.
So, it will be a long story, I'm sorry. I just don't know what is relevant in this situation and what is not. This is my first cat (I had plenty of dogs previously). I'm also sorry for my English, I'm not native, still learning.
So, I got Aya from lovely home whet she was kitten. It was a hard time for me, as my beloved gran died in suffering and I was spending plenty of time on my own, in empty house. The plan was, to have some company and stumulation, as I was very upset. It was working great! She was always making me smile.Transition was easy, she get in love with me and my boyfriend straight away. Extremely cuddly, loving, quick learner. I manage to convert her from her dry only food, to wet (jelly cheap one) and then for quality no-grain food in few months. She was eating like a horse and growing fast. Now she is about 5,5kg. I spend hours and hours playing with her, creatng new toys, teaching her to not scratch me in play, I've builded her hudge scraching post. She loves it. She was sleeping on my neck, doing bisquits on my chest, purring and cuddling most of the time whe she was not playing or eating. She was in love with my boyfriend as well, sharing her attention equaly between us. She was even more cuddly, when I was in pain, heating up y belly with her body and constantly licking me. It was heaven.
Her inteligence is amazing. She is always coming when her name is mentioned, she loves to do anything me or my man are doing, trying to copy anything we are up to (even crafts, chasing brush, cleaning house...whatever, she still loves it all). She have learned to open cupboards and is very close to running taps on her own. I've teached her to communicate. When she want something, she is using her paw to show me what is it what she want (most of the time, it's something on my plate... but sometimes is f.e. ceiling lamp...
. When I'm doing my crafts and she is getting to excited and causung me probems, I'm gently tapping her forehead, when what she is doing is not acceptable. She is stopping it, as she now that few more taps, and I'll put her down on the floor. I've teached her to play fetch, and she is great with it.After my gran died, I had to do few 5-6 days trips to sort out some family problems. When I was back, she was always greeting me and becoming herself in few hours. Two months ago, I had to go away again, for a week. During this time, she refused to eat for my boyfriend for two days. Through phone I asked my boyfriend to copy exactly my morning routine with her and feeding, and it worked. She started to eat again, but only dry food. When I was back, she was a bit aloof, but still cuddling me time to time. Then she get her first heat. She is not spayed, I was considering breeding her, once or twice, as i wanted another cat, and she is very unique personality and colour.
Heat was not so bad as Ive expected. She was singing lots, and she got really obsessed with my boyfriend (I assume because he is male...). I started reading, and we decided to try akupressure to relive her. It worked. In two days heat was finished, she calmed down. We were doing akupressure first-me, next time-my boyfriend, as I was worrying about her obsession for my boyfriend. I will be honest, she wanted to make a love to him...all the time. Never with me. During acupressure sessions she was very obidient, and after, she was licking my hands and rolling around. But, when my man was performing it, she was becoming a bit agressive after it, scraching him and biting, but still seems really enjoying it. I've read, that cat are having a bit agressive behaviours during inrercurse, so we didn't worry about it to much.
So heat finished, she is calm and eating normally her wet food and her cooked meat. She start to playing again, bringing he her toys and chasing me, when she is in a mood for playing. I'm feeding her again and during feeding she accept my touch and petting. She still enjoy doing crafts with me, or walking around a house, observing. She still loves my boyfriend, cuddling him, sleeping with him, on his side of bed. But I can't touch her! She is not interested in any form of petting or cuddling with me. If I will start touching her, she will just walk away. She is not greeting me anymore. When I'm home, on my own, most of the time she is waiting for my boyfriend, in the door. When she is getting bored, she is coming to sit with me, but always in distance. She will come to me to ask for food or for cleaning litter trays or for play, but that's it. We can play for hours, then I will feed her and she will go into grooming herself, but she will not come to me. Before heat, if I've started to blink to her (J.Galaxy "I love u") she will do this sweet birdy noise and she will run to cuddle my face. Now, its not working at all. She is not even blinking back to me. Just starring in my eyes. She will just sit and observe me.
This situation is like this for longer that month now. I really miss her. I miss her purring and my heart is broken, while looking at how she enjoy cuddles with my boyfriend. I'm still thinking what have I done wrong. But when I touch her, she is not scared. She looks disquasted. Her body language is exacty the same, like when long time ago she smell rotten meat. I'm not using any new perfumes of toiletries, if u interested.
I'm worry that I've lost her forever.
I'm trying to act, like nothing happened. I still pick her up from the floor and cuddle her, and she is accepting it. She will come and sit on my lap, if I'm giving her her favourite snacks. But as soon as its finished, she will run away. I don't know what else I cat do...
Anyone every seem something like this? What I can do?
She sounds an absolute darling.