Breast cancer starting to ulcerate
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Breast cancer starting to ulcerate
Nans my cat , developed breast cancer when she was about 16 years old , it started as a pea on one side , but since she was a senior cat , thyrotoxic , diabetic with elevated liver enzymes the vet and us agreed on not doing surgery.
She almost reached her 18 and still act like a healthy cat despite her medical problems , this surpassed what we thought before , we thought she is gonna live for a year or two not further, especially with breast cancer.
The cancer extended to other side and progressed slowly to a lemon sized one on both sides, yesterday i noticed a spot of bloody discharge on my bed sheet for the 1st time, so it looks like one of them will begin to ulcerate to the outside.
So if we leave this ulcerative mass it will bleed, get infected and will cause pain for sure.
So i guess i am left with only 2 options, doing the surgery, or euthanize her , but the cat looks perfectly fine and healthy and the surgery could suceed despite the odds or at least be a palliative option removing the mass to prevent it from ulcerating. (no chemo or radiotherapy options available, it is only surgery and i am taking her to the vet today for doing some labs prior to surgery which could be tomorrow)
So what's your personal opinion, i would love to hear them and i appreciate it, you helped me so much across the past years.
Pardon me i am a bit emotional , and everytime she comes near me i cry.
She almost reached her 18 and still act like a healthy cat despite her medical problems , this surpassed what we thought before , we thought she is gonna live for a year or two not further, especially with breast cancer.
The cancer extended to other side and progressed slowly to a lemon sized one on both sides, yesterday i noticed a spot of bloody discharge on my bed sheet for the 1st time, so it looks like one of them will begin to ulcerate to the outside.
So if we leave this ulcerative mass it will bleed, get infected and will cause pain for sure.
So i guess i am left with only 2 options, doing the surgery, or euthanize her , but the cat looks perfectly fine and healthy and the surgery could suceed despite the odds or at least be a palliative option removing the mass to prevent it from ulcerating. (no chemo or radiotherapy options available, it is only surgery and i am taking her to the vet today for doing some labs prior to surgery which could be tomorrow)
So what's your personal opinion, i would love to hear them and i appreciate it, you helped me so much across the past years.
Pardon me i am a bit emotional , and everytime she comes near me i cry.
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Re: Breast cancer starting to ulcerate
I'm sorry to hear that her cancer is progressing, but I wouldn't put her through surgery, especially now you say she has a lump on the other side - when they remove mammary cancer, they tend to remove the whole strip of nipples, as it tends to just affect one side, but if she has lumps on both sides, the surgery will be even harder than it would have been two years ago, anaesthetic can be hard on older cats, despite precautions, and recovery from that kind of surgery can be hard, my friend had it done on her cat, and the top nipple removal site was hard to heal due to the location and she was only 13. The other thing to consider is that mammary cancer tends to spread to the lungs, and if hers has spread externally, you would need to do a chest x-ray, as if it has spread to her lungs, surgery won't fix everything.
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Re: Breast cancer starting to ulcerate
booktigger wrote: ↑Thu Nov 25, 2021 7:13 am I'm sorry to hear that her cancer is progressing, but I wouldn't put her through surgery, especially now you say she has a lump on the other side - when they remove mammary cancer, they tend to remove the whole strip of nipples, as it tends to just affect one side, but if she has lumps on both sides, the surgery will be even harder than it would have been two years ago, anaesthetic can be hard on older cats, despite precautions, and recovery from that kind of surgery can be hard, my friend had it done on her cat, and the top nipple removal site was hard to heal due to the location and she was only 13. The other thing to consider is that mammary cancer tends to spread to the lungs, and if hers has spread externally, you would need to do a chest x-ray, as if it has spread to her lungs, surgery won't fix everything.
Thanks booktigger for your reply, i know that the cancer might be spread internally, we will make an xray with the labs today, but whether it had spread or not let us consider it a palliative surgery as ulcerative breast mass will not heal on its own, i also will discuss the idea of just removing the masses locally not the whole mammary chain, i am afraid too that a large scar will definitely be a big burden to heal.
Palliative surgery is not intended for curing the tumour rather than offering a partial solution for the symptoms affecting quality of life.
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Mustafa, we can see how much Nans means to you, and you have devoted your time to caring so well for her all this time, you have given her everything a cat could wish for, even in an environment where the most modern and sophisticated treatments are out of reach and vets have a different attitude to the Western pet industry.
It is a very tough time now for you, either way. But for Nans, one way is hard and the other is easy. The physical trauma on an ageing body of anaesthesia, whether it's palliative or curative is really irrelevant at her age, the physical stress of that, then the surgery, then the recovery from surgery, is a lot to ask of her. I find it useful to think of realistically how long she might have left if she was perfectly healthy. I know I am on the hard side but personally after 15/16 I would be unlikely to consider major surgery.
But you know your girl best, and you are asking for advice, so the best thing I can say to you is this:
Advice is something we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
I think deep in your heart you already know the best thing to do for Nans - for her, not for yourself. Either way this will be hard for you, but for her there is a hard way and an easy way. What would Nans choose? Because what Nans would want is what you would want for her, I think.
It is a very tough time now for you, either way. But for Nans, one way is hard and the other is easy. The physical trauma on an ageing body of anaesthesia, whether it's palliative or curative is really irrelevant at her age, the physical stress of that, then the surgery, then the recovery from surgery, is a lot to ask of her. I find it useful to think of realistically how long she might have left if she was perfectly healthy. I know I am on the hard side but personally after 15/16 I would be unlikely to consider major surgery.
But you know your girl best, and you are asking for advice, so the best thing I can say to you is this:
Advice is something we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
I think deep in your heart you already know the best thing to do for Nans - for her, not for yourself. Either way this will be hard for you, but for her there is a hard way and an easy way. What would Nans choose? Because what Nans would want is what you would want for her, I think.
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I think this is one of the times you need to ask your vet's advice, and listen to the subtext. I would be asking how long the op might give her with/without metastasis, and with what quality of life, and how long the recovery from the op will take. If the prognosis is for only a few months of poor quality life and with many weeks of uncomfortable recovery, I would not put her through it. If there is a high probability of one or more years of good quality, the decision would be different. Perhaps discuss the probabilities with the vet and ask them to x-ray before operating, then if the cancer has spread euthanasia instead might be the kinder option.
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Thanks molly for your kindness, it is difficult i know , theoretically if i felt she is in pain i wouldn't hesitate to euthanize her, but thinking about it, can i really do it ?! I always thought if she was gonna die i would be by her side at the moment, but can i if i ordered them to euthanize her ?!Mollycat wrote: ↑Thu Nov 25, 2021 9:33 am Mustafa, we can see how much Nans means to you, and you have devoted your time to caring so well for her all this time, you have given her everything a cat could wish for, even in an environment where the most modern and sophisticated treatments are out of reach and vets have a different attitude to the Western pet industry.
It is a very tough time now for you, either way. But for Nans, one way is hard and the other is easy. The physical trauma on an ageing body of anaesthesia, whether it's palliative or curative is really irrelevant at her age, the physical stress of that, then the surgery, then the recovery from surgery, is a lot to ask of her. I find it useful to think of realistically how long she might have left if she was perfectly healthy. I know I am on the hard side but personally after 15/16 I would be unlikely to consider major surgery.
But you know your girl best, and you are asking for advice, so the best thing I can say to you is this:
Advice is something we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
I think deep in your heart you already know the best thing to do for Nans - for her, not for yourself. Either way this will be hard for you, but for her there is a hard way and an easy way. What would Nans choose? Because what Nans would want is what you would want for her, I think.
So am gonna hold on these thoughts for now, just did an xray to assess the spread, i didn't see it, the regular vet think it is good, but he will postpone the results till the vet surgeon sees it, and he will discuss the case with him and suggest the idea of only removing the massess locally not the whole mammary chain.
Thanks fjm , this is really the main issue, i am waiting for the vet surgeon to talk about the odds, we already did an x-ray and waiting for his opinion, we will do full labs later to further assess the situation.fjm wrote: ↑Thu Nov 25, 2021 9:41 am I think this is one of the times you need to ask your vet's advice, and listen to the subtext. I would be asking how long the op might give her with/without metastasis, and with what quality of life, and how long the recovery from the op will take. If the prognosis is for only a few months of poor quality life and with many weeks of uncomfortable recovery, I would not put her through it. If there is a high probability of one or more years of good quality, the decision would be different. Perhaps discuss the probabilities with the vet and ask them to x-ray before operating, then if the cancer has spread euthanasia instead might be the kinder option.
Sharing your perspectives means alot for me, i wish no one to be put in this situation.
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Re: Breast cancer starting to ulcerate
I'm glad the x-ray seems like it hasn't spread to her lungs, but I still wouldn't put her through removal even for palliative, putting aside the fact that only removing the mass rather than the whole strip isn't the best idea given it has recently spread, it is very tough surgery to recover from, my friend did regret putting her cat through it, because it was a long recovery for a healthy 13 year old, the fact that Nan is 18 with other health issues, you could find that she deteriorates rapidly.
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Did she need a general anaesthetic for her x-ray, or just sedation?
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I am reconsidering putting her through surgery, i feel the vet isn't totally honest with me and all he cares about is the sugery fees, i will seek another vet opinion.booktigger wrote: ↑Thu Nov 25, 2021 6:40 pm I'm glad the x-ray seems like it hasn't spread to her lungs, but I still wouldn't put her through removal even for palliative, putting aside the fact that only removing the mass rather than the whole strip isn't the best idea given it has recently spread, it is very tough surgery to recover from, my friend did regret putting her cat through it, because it was a long recovery for a healthy 13 year old, the fact that Nan is 18 with other health issues, you could find that she deteriorates rapidly.
Look she wasn't sedated, and ppl are not permitted into the x-ray room without a proper vest, i just saw a glimpse of 2 ppl holding her firmly before exiting the room.
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I lost a cat in Covid lockdown when we were not allowed in to the vets surgery with our animals, but many of them here made an exception for euthanasia. We were both able to go in with Purdy (my cat from a previous relationship) and be with her. This is something you should ask your vets, whether you can hold Nans. They may even be able to come to your home.mustafa811 wrote: ↑Thu Nov 25, 2021 10:59 am Thanks molly for your kindness, it is difficult i know , theoretically if i felt she is in pain i wouldn't hesitate to euthanize her, but thinking about it, can i really do it ?! I always thought if she was gonna die i would be by her side at the moment, but can i if i ordered them to euthanize her ?!
So am gonna hold on these thoughts for now, just did an xray to assess the spread, i didn't see it, the regular vet think it is good, but he will postpone the results till the vet surgeon sees it, and he will discuss the case with him and suggest the idea of only removing the massess locally not the whole mammary chain.
Perhaps if it is palliative not with any hope of a cure they might agree to remove only the lump, again you need to ask them about that. And as fjm says, a very frank discussion and everything on the table, even the things we can't bear to think let alone say out loud.
You also need to consider the very real possibility that Nans is hiding her illness well from you, as cats do, and that you could decide for surgery and her heart would give out, then you could lose her without the opportunity to be holding her as she slips away.
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We started force feeding , but still she didn't respond and she was like devoid of life and weak , as if we are pulling her to life against her will .
Today i just looked to her in the eyes and she gave me a final look as if she knew it was time , i took her to the vet , we euthanized her , and she died in my hands .
I am sort of devastated right now , i cant deal emotionally with her loss , pardon me i need it to share this with someone .
R.I.P my whole life ❤
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It is the last, the kindest, and the hardest gift we are able to give the animals we love. I am so sorry - you did everything and more to keep her comfortable, but were brave and loving enough to hear her when she told you she was tired, and suffering, and ready to go. We never lose them completely - the love stays with us forever.
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Thanks fjm for your kind hearted words , they are my only consolation beside her warm blanket ❤.fjm wrote: ↑Sun Dec 05, 2021 6:56 pm It is the last, the kindest, and the hardest gift we are able to give the animals we love. I am so sorry - you did everything and more to keep her comfortable, but were brave and loving enough to hear her when she told you she was tired, and suffering, and ready to go. We never lose them completely - the love stays with us forever.
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Be kind to yourself in the days and weeks ahead, when your heart is a lead weight and your eyes burn from tears and restless sleep. You gave Nans everything and when there is nothing left to offer you gave her the ultimate gift of selfless love, to let her go in peace and free from pain, in your arms. She is free now, for her the pain is over. You have such a wonderful kind and generous heart. My thoughts are with you tonight.
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Thanks molly for your support and tremendous help over the past years , nans wouldn't have reached this age without you and other members help .Mollycat wrote: ↑Sun Dec 05, 2021 10:33 pm Be kind to yourself in the days and weeks ahead, when your heart is a lead weight and your eyes burn from tears and restless sleep. You gave Nans everything and when there is nothing left to offer you gave her the ultimate gift of selfless love, to let her go in peace and free from pain, in your arms. She is free now, for her the pain is over. You have such a wonderful kind and generous heart. My thoughts are with you tonight.
Your support eased my pain and i feel better already but so exhausted , i almost didn't sleep well at all this week .
Thanks all and goodnight .
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I'm sorry to hear that, she will be grateful you released her and was there with her at the end. Do take care of yourself at this time, it is so easy to become dehydrated and run down. RIP Nans
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Thanks booktigger .booktigger wrote: ↑Mon Dec 06, 2021 5:41 pm I'm sorry to hear that, she will be grateful you released her and was there with her at the end. Do take care of yourself at this time, it is so easy to become dehydrated and run down. RIP Nans