Wahoo .. You lovely people.

[issiandarchie+68]

Remember my recent self pitying whinge about how I longed for another cat and my husband's refusal? Well, after reading and taking all your gentle comments on board,I conceded defeat and did not mention the subject of cat adoption again. The good news is, tonight he sat next to me on the sofa, a first in itself,we haven't shared a seat since 1989, and announced that, once lockdown is over, we get back to our full lives and more,but if still not happy being cat free by Christmas, we will adopt two middle aged indoor cats. No preference on breed etc. If the cats take to, need us they will be welcome to share our home. At my age,I know a few months is not long time to wait,but I will be honest with him should these feelings of longing pass. My heart is lighter, a compromise reached. Thank you for supporting me. issi

[fjm]

Your husband sounds a treasure - well done to both of you for setting aside arguments and concentrating on understanding each other.

[booktigger]

So pleased to hear that

[Ruth B]

Brilliant news, the secret to a long and happy marriage compromise, and how best to get it, what works for one won't work for another couple, but often something else does.

I am sure your feelings won't have changed by Christmas, but if they have then saying so is the right thing to do, but I have a feeling that by 2022 you will have a couple of happy middle aged cats, glad to be in a warm, loving home, instead of sat in a shelter while people choose the kittens next door to them.