Now I'm by no means an expert on cats but I'll just say a word or two from my own personal experience.
Often cats bolting after you make a movement or approach them is an invitation to play, sometimes they in that crazy cat mood and they just do it for the heck of it. Some cats like being near humans but not sit on their lap or even be touched much, they're simply not lap cats while others seek physical contact more often.
What matters is that you interact with the cat, play with them, feed them, brush them and regularly clean their litter box, the rest is up to them and nature itself, how their personalities and character develop over time is anybody's guess, you can only influence it so much.
If you feel they're not bonded with you enough simply spend more time with them but don't force them to do activities they don't want to do, cats are like that, they don't like being forced to do anything. Over time your relationship will grow and develop and you'll all get to know each other better.
As for them learning their names, some cats seem to learn faster while others take some time.
Recently Milla had 4 kittens, out of the four the first two to learn their names were Kala and Marco, then came Medo and finally Casper who had his name changed to Pocky(maybe they are Pokcy & Rocky fans too...nah I doubt it) Surprisingly enough Casper got used to Pocky very quickly from what we hear so the way their name sounds is also important to them.
Now, the way I taught them their individual names and it worked beautifully was to speak their name when I'd hold them or interact with them when no other kitten or the mom was around and Kala and Marco learned their names surprisingly quickly...in fact I have a picture of Kala responding to her name and coming to me
http://i.imgur.com/UPijHdp.jpg
I must admit I don't speak to my cats much, just the kinda guy I am. I don't do the whole cute voice thing people do and when I do talk to them I talk to them like I would to my friends/best buddies
but my communication with them is still absolutely fantastic. My point is, non verbal communication with a cat is just as important as verbal communication and over time you and your cats will learn to communicate perfectly.
Just keep on playing with them and interacting with them the way you feel is best for all three of you and they'll bond to you in their own way.