Just recently lost our beloved cat

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lily71
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Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by lily71 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:14 pm

Hi all,

We've just recently had to have our gorgeous cat put down. He seemed fine apart from recently seeming a bit blue and off his food. It was a shock for us to think he was just under the weather to be told he was very ill and was subsequently put to sleep, all in just a matter of days.

The feeling of grief is overwhelming.

Just wanted to share with some like minded pet lovers.

:-( xx

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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by JulieandBarney » Mon Feb 16, 2015 8:23 pm

Oh Lily

So sorry to hear of your loss....we have all been there and understand your feelings, please, if you can, share with us.......I lost my boy last year and it broke my heart.....xx

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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by lily71 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 9:11 pm

Ah thank you JulieandBarney. You're so kind. So sorry to hear about your loss.

How do you get passed the "i wish i'd spent even an extra 5 minutes with him before he went" ??

But at what point do you let go and stop beating yourself up? xx

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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by Topcat10 » Tue Feb 17, 2015 12:10 am

Yes as has already been said, we've all been there and share your sorrow.
R I P Beloved cat. Sleep with purrs.
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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by JulieandBarney » Tue Feb 17, 2015 8:19 am

Hi Lily

It took some time to get past the point of "What if only...." and " I wish I could have done more..." The terrible guilt and grief does stay with you a while, I always used to think 'Maybe I should have realised earlier...Maybe he would have been made better' It drove me crazy, our boy 'CC' had oral cancer and we had to have him put to sleep within a week of diagnosis, it tore me apart.....but now I look back and think of him with a smile on my face, remembering his funny ways, he was only about 7 when he died, far too young...

One day you will feel the same too, give yourself time and allow yourself to grieve, you have lost a member of the family, it will hurt for a while, post on here anytime, I am in and out throughout the day...take care of yourself, I used to read the poem below over and over..:-

MAKING THAT FINAL DECISION TO SAY GOOD-BYE

You're giving me a special gift,
So sorrowfully endowed,
And through these last few cherished days,
Your courage makes me proud.
But really, love is knowing
When your best friend is in pain,
And understanding earthly acts
Will only be in vain.
So looking deep into your eyes,
Beyond, into your soul,
I see in you the magic, that will
Once more make me whole.
The strength that you possess,
Is why I look to you today,
To do this thing that must be done,
For it's the only way.
That strength is why I've followed you,
And chose you as my friend,
And why I've loved you all these years...
My partner till the end.
Please, understand just what this gift
You're giving, means to me,
It gives me back the strength I've lost,
And all my dignity.
You take a stand on my behalf,
For that is what friends do.
And know that what you do is right,
For I believe it too.
So one last time, I breathe your scent,
And through your hand I feel,
The courage that's within you,
To now grant me this appeal.
Cut the ties that holds me here,
Dear friend, and let me run,
Once more a strong and steady cat,
My pain and struggle done.
And don't despair my passing,
For I won't be far away,
Forever here, within your heart,
And memory I'll stay.
I'll be there watching over you,
Your ever faithful friend,
And in your memories I'll run,
... a young kitten once again.

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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by Crewella » Wed Feb 18, 2015 3:18 pm

Please don't blame yourself - cats are notorious for hiding when they are ill and in pain, it's part of who they are. We've all missed things being wrong with our cats - and you did spot a problem and take him for help. I'm so very sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))

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Re: Just recently lost our beloved cat

Post by lily71 » Sat Feb 21, 2015 12:28 pm

Thank you all so much! I am taking great comfort from this forum and from you lovely pet lovers, who can genuinely empathise :)
JulieandBarney, that poem is beautiful. Thank you xx

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