Advice for adopting shelter cat

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by fjm » Mon Jul 22, 2019 12:42 pm

I gave up closing internal doors soon after I got a cat - or rather two cats. It is just about possible to cope with the in/out demands of one, but with two there is always one on the wrong side of a door...

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by Lilith » Mon Jul 22, 2019 1:04 pm

Lol yes, like the Rum Tum Tugger :lol:

Nameless, I do sympathise, sounds as if Madam Marshmallow is turning into a right little diva! :o

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by Nameless » Tue Jul 23, 2019 2:01 pm

Madame is turning into someone I never saw in shelter.
This morning I let her in the bedroom. Put her on my bed, tried to get some sleep (in vain). She sniffed almost everything from me up to pillows, jumped down, sniffe floor, then tried to go under PC table. Had to get out her become she messes with tons of cables. Madame ran out of bedroom...only to meow later.

In shelter Madame was a passive cat. Never meowed. Very silent purrs. When volunteers offered her food, she could just stare somewhere. Third week at home, she meows when she sees closed doors. She purrs really loudly. She likes to lay on her back, stretch as if telling "now, slave, rub my belly NOW!". In shelter she used to use scratchboard: at home it is still very rare occasion (nope, catnip did not help). She is almost a different cat.

Just how to fight these meows of Madame Marshmallow Rum Tum Tugger, except ignoring - little ideas.

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by fjm » Tue Jul 23, 2019 2:36 pm

Well, if you are going to ignore her you will have to stick to it - otherwise you are teaching her that in order to get your attention she has to really persevere! If you are finding that difficult I would try rationing attention when you are busy - a few moments of conversation, a quick rub, then a gentle pat-pat to tell her that's her lot for the time being. I can see that her desire to be with you must come as a bit of a shock after her demeanour in the shelter, but at the same time it is flattering - she has very quickly come to trust you and to be confident enough to explore. Now she just has to train you to respond to her orders...!

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by Nameless » Tue Jul 30, 2019 7:33 am

Update: concerts continues. Even if I do not pay attention to meowing.
Tried one experiment: brought Madame Marshmallow to my bedroom. Of course, when I was here to control things. She sniffed again, was interested in bed. Lied there, wanted to be rubbed. I left foor open, she could go in/out freely. Well, she left room soon. Even ddi not bother to check computer table.
Note: she did not wish wish to lie and sleep near to me.
Just when i went to bathroom, I heard meowing. I did not respond in any way. Looks like any situation when I am behind closed doors gets her to meow, to demand attention. And I can't let her to wc or bathroom...

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by Tynaroo » Thu Dec 19, 2019 2:03 pm

Lol, even opened door sometimes isn't a solution in our case - she'll just yell and scratch in the doorway.

As I know, most of the time cat's "meow" is meant to get a human's attention. :lol:
I've just recently discovered on the catademy that they even "purrring" mostly for their human.

Sometimes she even pushes the door in the right direction to make it closed... and yell at it. And scratch. And you know, what? She's doing it tirelessly! Or just sit in the middle of one of the rooms and meowing. But a little bit of attention usually enough to calm her down. I tend to respond to her calls as soon as possible, cause ones I've realised that she needs it a lot. I mean the attention. She's an absolutely indoor cat and refusing to communicate or play with her is just nearly cruel.

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by Mollycat » Mon Jan 20, 2020 6:44 am

fjm wrote:
Mon Jul 22, 2019 12:42 pm
I gave up closing internal doors soon after I got a cat - or rather two cats. It is just about possible to cope with the in/out demands of one, but with two there is always one on the wrong side of a door...
The definition of a door is something a cay is always on the wrong side of.

Someone put this on my facebook the other day
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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by exlibris » Mon Jan 20, 2020 7:42 am

I think someone already said this this, but I'll say it again because it was true of mine - older cats can be very verbal. We used to joke that our Bakamono thought he was a wolf and would 'howl at the lightbulbs' at 3am.

It's really hard, but this is what I did. Try ignoring her throughout the night (even if your laying awake feeling guilty because she sounds so pitiful). When you get up for work in the morning, make feeding her the very first thing you do, so it becomes a habit. She'll know not to try and bother you during the night, as they're be no point. But at 7am she'll be jumping on the bed and purring! Best alarm clock I've ever had! Takes a lot of will power thought - and you feel really mean initially.

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Re: Advice for adopting shelter cat

Post by ReichertCaleb » Tue Jun 30, 2020 9:16 am

Keeping a cat means that you will have to spend time each day to feed it. Brush and keep his nest clean, as well as have fun, cuddle the animal. Cats are also animals that need a lot of affection from their owners. Therefore you should spend some time of the day to play with them more. In addition, you also need to take the time to learn how to adopt kittens from people with long experience.

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